[dhritu999]

I told my parents recently that I am gay and my mother wants to cure me!! I am sure nothing like this can ever be cured. What to do?

[talaniman]

The only cure that I know of is for your mom to accept you for who you are. Be aware it may take a while for the shock to wear off, but in time hopefully she will come around to reality. I am glad you came out to them, just give them time to get their head wrapped around it.

[kaka67]

You have know that you are gay for longer than they have so give them time to adjust.

You can't be "cured" as being gay is not a disease.

[Fr_Chuck]

I guess one question ( not that it pertains to cure) is how old are you.

[joypulv]

Psychology has dropped the idea of 'curing' homosexuality, but some religion hasn't. (I too agree that there's nothing to cure.) Try to talk to her at a calm time, explain your feelings, and maybe even say that it hurts to have her think you need to be cured, that you love her the way she is and you hope she can do the same.

[dhritu999]

17

[dhritu999]

She doesn't believe me cause I act so straight. I was pretty sissy when I was small but after I was put in a hostel in 4th standard I started hiding cause I got tagged. It took time but I hid it very well by the time I was in 10th ststandard.

After that I came to another state to study and I watched these gay themed movies and I was so much influenced by this movie that I went and started weeping near her. She knew something was wrong and asked me. I told her I was gay and she asked how I

Know. I couldn't tell her that I am not a virgin. I could tell no one cause they would disgust me after that. She doesn't believe me. And I am turning into a stone. No emotions for anyone. Not even for my mother. The women who created me.

I haven't cried since 6 months but that doesn't mean I am happy. I am very sad. The man I love has aids and is in a different corner of the world. I couldn't cry even when he told me that. What's happening to me? I feel sad for so many thing but

[dhritu999]

I can't cry!!

My father had an operation recently and my mother is lactatic but I still don't feel anythign for them. I even wish that my sisters weren't my sisters at all. It's all happening after I told them.

Any solutions?

Thanks in advanced.

[talaniman]

So many of us react to situations differently, with no out ward emotions. Doesn't mean we don't have them. I think you are coming of age and learning about yourself, and learning how to accept yourself, despite what others say, or think.

We all go through that personal growth where we define ourselves and don't let others define us. Be patient, it's a process that takes years of experience to deal with.