[lovetheatre13]

I don't know where to start.

Okay, I have a 16 year old brother who is almost 17 in one month. Our household consists of my mom, me, and my brother. My dad lives in Europe, and my step dad (who is divorced from my mom) helps us out a lot and we see him almost everyday. My step dad is the only person my brother seems to have a speck of respect towards.
There's are numerous problems with my brother.
1. He is almost 17 and still in 9th grade. He started a program where a student goes to school once a week and does all their hw at home. Last year he got thrown out because he had straight F's and poor attendance and missing assignments.
2. All he does all day is stay on the computer. He never goes out with friends. He doesn't do ANYTHING. He just plays games on the computer.
3. He's absolutely bi-polar. One minute he verbally abuses my mom and the next he tells her how much he loves her.
4. When he doesn't get his way, he punches holes in the wall or breaks something. My mom really enjoys decorating the house with lots of beautiful items, and he knows he hurts her when he breakes them.


This has been continuing on for 3 going on 4 years now. I just don't know what happens next. What are we going to do? He drains all the positive energy out of us. And it is NOT drugs. Just, trust me. It's not. The police have come to our house twice now to speak to him, to shout, to threaten. Nothing works. We've tried therapy. Taking his things away. If we took his computer away he would destroy the house. And he is completely anti-social. He is SO NICE when we go out in public, and everybody thinks he is the sweetest kid. He thinks everybody is stupid and he's einstein. He is a complete germaphobic. If that's what you call it. He washes his hands every five minutes and it's just NOT normal. He says he's going to be an architect, and if you listen to him, he is smart. He does have good morals, but what he says when he's in a good mood doesn't match HIM. We tell him to become an architect you need to go to college, and he hasn't finished his first year in high school at 17. His other problem is that he never wants to eat at home, he just demands we go to restaurants all the time. He doesn't know how to take care of anything. He will never be able to go out on his own. He will leave the gas on and he would break everything. It's just, miserable here. I can't do it anymore.

[rockbottomtohell]

If you want to get away from it, maybe you could ask your parents if you could stay with your dad in Europe. If you want to help your brother, you could try taking him to the doctor or pyschiatrist. If that doesn't work, maybe think about an institution (not a permanent one) that can help with that sort of thing.