[jezzeka888]

So I was talking to a guy at work who I'm interested in and I'm pretty sure he's interested in me too, I was on my lunch break and was eating in the breakroom when he came in to hangout and do some stuff in the back. I forget how it came up but he said something along the lines of "you can eat a lot or you look like you can eat a lot can't you?" and I was like umm I guess yea if I want to. And then he said "good, guys like girls that can eat" and told me about an ex who would never eat anything.
What did he mean by this? I'm 5'10 weigh 160 but I'm not fat so I don't know do you think he is saying I'm chub or something or was it a weird way of complimenting me?

[tickle]

I think it was a funny way of complimenting you. He didn't mean you were fat. At least the way you stated it, it didn't appear to be a put down. You are probably too sensitive. If you are sensitive, I know it is hard to let something go, but learn to turn it around and make a joke of it, or a pleasantry.

Tick

[redhed35]

That was a compliment?

God love him so,I bet he's a big hit with the ladies... not!

Your not heavy by any stretch of the imagination.

Maybe he was trying to strike up a conversation,maybe he's a idiot and has not got a clue how to talk to women.

As I said don't worry about it.

Either way,don't stress about it

[Wondergirl]

Guys back in my day would take a girl out to eat and to the movies, and she would pick at her food or would order the least amount of food, trying to look like she was concerned about her waistline. The guys would think how girly and cute she was.

Those days are over. Guys like girls who dig in and enjoy their food (and who know how to cook and bake). Remember, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

[tickle]

that was a compliment?

God love him so,i bet hes a big hit with the ladies...not!

your not heavy by any stretch of the imagination.

maybe he was trying to strike up a conversation,maybe hes a idiot and has not got a clue how to talk to women.

as i said dont worry about it.

either way,dont stress about it

I have noticed some men can't get away without the double entendre and consider themselves really clever when they can do that. Hahahha is what I say. They have nothing on us ladies for that.:rolleyes:

He indeed was thinking he was very clever trying to start up a conversation, but not bright enough to do it properly I guess.

If OP is interested in him I would say no way, throw that one back and go for clever and not foolish.

Tick

[jezzeka888]

Not sexting but what kind of questions or comments does a girl say to you that keeps you interested?

[Curlyben]

If you need to send inane texts to a guy to keep him interested then the relationship is completely doomed. Move on and find someone else that you have a connection with.

[jezzeka888]

I started a new job a few weeks ago and I met this guy who also works there, Hes 24, I'm 18, he's super nice and outgoing and will talk to anyone and on my first day he showed me around and helped me with everything and also asked me a lot of personal questions about my interests and things like that. We had a lot in common and I got the feeling like he might be interested in me... the next time we worked together, Right when he saw me, he complimented me on my hair and told me it was very exotic looking . Towards the end of our shift we were talking more and he asked me about my past relationships and told me about his ex girlfriends, pretty serious stuff. As we were walking out, he asked me what I was doing that weekend, and if I wanted to go to the beach and gave me his number. I ended up having to work so we couldn't but he's texted me a few times throughout the week. I worked with him again a few days ago and he said to me" you look less exotic today..you still got it goin on though."

What does he mean? Do you think he's interested? Are there any signs I should look for that would say he's interested and wants to take things further? Or do you think he is just a friendly co worker?
15 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer

[Jake2008]

Personally, I am always cautious when I meet a new person, and they spill their guts about their lives, their girlfriends, their physical ailments, their surgeries, their messed up kids, their financial status, and their veiled need to qualify for 'borrowing' money, cigarettes, or a ride.

That was my first impression of your post- he came on far too heavy, far too fast. You were sort of a sitting duck, because you were new, and he was in a position to monopolize your 'newness' and go beyond simply showing you the ropes of your new job.

Because he blabbed the way he did, could have been nervousness, and his comment about you being less exotic could be just a goofy comment, meant to be funny. I wouldn't take that seriously. But, he has come on quite strong, and I recommend caution.

In the meanwhile, treat him as you would any new person in your life. Be friendly, and pleasant, but do not offer up any personal information, whatsoever, other than what he is required to know- which is essentially only your name.

And don't be shy to stop him when he goes on about something that makes you uncomfortable. You aren't his therapist, or his friend, or his big sister. You are a co-worker. When he starts down that path of how many girlfriends he's had and why they didn't work out, just stop him with something simple like, "You know John, I really don't want to hear about it", and he will stop in his tracks. You are not a sounding board.

If it is just his kind of weird way of connecting to you, and he is interested, he will find other things to talk about.

Play it by ear. You are wise to use caution in my opinion.

[Riot]

If your interested in him, then why don't you just ask him yourself?

[jezzeka888]

I have a crush on my co worker,I've been working at the place for about a month I'm 18 he's 24, and we flirt a lot at work and text sometimes outside of work. We closed together the other night and he asked me if I wanted to get in and out with him after work. We close at 10 and he drove there, and he paid for our meals. We got our food to go and brought it back to work and we sat outside and talked for like an hour and a half about everything just getting to know each other better. He has been dating someone on and off for 6 months (he never mentioned anything about a girlfriend before I didn't find out until that night when her and his mom came in!) I asked him about it and he said that he wants to end things with her and that they've been going back to just friends for awhile but its hard because her and his mom have become close.( he didn't know she was coming in with his mom that night). I think he could maybe eventually ask me out, but I'm so confused I really like him! What should I do?

[Homegirl 50]

He's feeding you a line of bull that can be smelled a mile away.
Leave him alone.
And messing where you work is bad form girl.

[jezzeka888]

Really like a guy at work and he likes me, we flirt a lot and we went out for food after work once (he drove and paid) however he had a girlfriend (he NEVER mentioned he had one, she came in one night with his mom) and he said he wants to end things, they've been on and off for awhile. That was a few weeks ago, he still flirts with me a lot at work, co workers have asked me if were dating, and he's asked me to go to the beach with him a couple times but I couldn't cause of work. I had to call him the other night while I was working to ask him a question and I left a message saying to call the store back but he called my cell and said "hi honey" when I answered. Do you think he will ask me out? Is there anything I can do to speed things up?
p.s. I plan on asking him about his girlfriend again and I won't do anything until there over

[cdad]

Do you really want to date this type of person? If so then never get mad if he cheats on you because you have already had a look into your future.

[Homegirl 50]

He is with that girl and is looking to cheat with you. Leave him alone. There are so may red flags I'm surprised you have not been dreaming of bulls.

[anzalpe]

Don't do nothing until he brakes up with his girlfriend or you could end up like a whore. If he brakes up with his girlfriend make sure he did! And then you would be free to ask him out! Good luck!

[Homegirl 50]

I don't why you'd want to ask him out.
You already know he has no problem lying and cheating.