[noContact706]

I dated this girl for about 4 months and everything was going great until she began working and moving we started seeing each other less and I was being understanding of her current situation until I started to feel like she no longer made an effort to see me everything seemed like an excuse and we began to argue at times I would also get extremely frustrated because all of our conversation were through text and I didn't feel she was sincere at times. Since college was just around the corner I let go of all the frustration and thought "well we go to the same school so we can see each other much more" as soon as it starts we meet up and while talking she brings up the fact of our relationship being weird and how our conversation are not what they use to be, I immediately questioned her on where she was trying to get at and she said nowhere but knowing the kind of person she is I pushed it a little more she told me that she still has a lot of feelings for me and she sees us having a long relationship but not at this time she said she doesn't want to break up she started asking me questions like if we broke up would we still be friends I told her I couldn't be friends with her because if she couldn't make time for me as a boyfriend why would that change as a friend we sat there in silence for a bit trying to figure out what to do like an idiot I gave the option of a break we cooled down for a bit and I changed the subject and began kissing right before we intiated the break she said she would contact me in a week or two, two weeks passed and she texts me with a new phone saying we need to talk I meet her up at school and she looks at me with blood shot eyes saying you already know what I'm going to say and I say well now I do she says I'm not ready for a relationship at the moment and I locked up and said OK you got to do what you got to do gave her a hug and left everything later that day while in class sank in and I got enraged I sent her three text messages one questioning her way of life the other talking about my confusion on why and lastly with me just telling her that I really cared for her and wished her the best she didn't respond to any of them except the last one saying that she is sorry that it didn't work out and that she wishes the best for me too I deleted her off Facebook and its been two weeks now I see her in the hallways sometimes and she gives me a half *** smile or a small wave she no longer sits in the usual space and it seems like she is trying to hide or not go anywhere I might be

[stillasking]

My best advice to you my friend... move on! She already has!

[noContact706]

That thought runs through my head everyday but I can't seem to let go there are those doubts in my head like the how we were all over each other right before the break and how every time I pass by her I can see she's unhappy

[noContact706]

I've been trying to follow the no contact rule and thinking of breaking it within a month or two but I'm unsure

[NorthernNiceGuy]

How could you contacting her right now benefit your situation at all... She came out and told you that it wasn't going to work. Her looking unhappy when you see her is just her feeling awkward around you. Don't misinterpret that as her being unhappy without you. By the sounds of it you had a summer fling and nothing more, it was fun while it lasted but unfortunately it wasn't meant to be. Don't contact her and before you know it you will be over it and on to someone new.

Cheers

[answerme_tender]

She feelings have changed. She doesn't wish to continue a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with you. She advised you face to face and told you as kindly as she could. She is avoiding going to same places because she is following the "NO Contact" rules. She acknowledges you in the hall by half smile and wave. But she still doesn't try to have conversation.
Having a relationship fall apart is hard, but its now time for you stop waiting around. Stop trying to convince yourself she is coming back.
Your in college go out and enjoy yourself. Get out with some friends Im sure your not going to have any problems finding out were all the college girls hang out!

[noContact706]

You may be right but the contact I was going to make it within a month or two

[noContact706]

Thanks man but why would she try to stay away from me I was never clingy or needy and never did anything wrong to her?

[NorthernNiceGuy]

This was a 4 month stink, there is no need to find closure. You had a fling and when the infatuation wore off there was nothing left keeping her with you. We don't do NC only to make a date later on that we will contact the person, you do it to get over the person and move on. Don't contact her now or in the future, there is no reason. Don't make mountains out of molehills my friend, leave it alone and enjoy school!

[noContact706]

OK got it

[noContact706]

Thanks everybody for the help I guess the answer is pretty clear screw this broad

[Homegirl 50]

You dated for 4 months, for her it was over and she told you.
She owes you no other explanation. If some one tells you it's over, it's over. Contacting her in a month does neither of you any good. Just move on, forget about contacting her. After a while you won't even think about it.
You meet, you date for a while and you move on. That is the way the dating process goes sometimes.

Oh and don't reply in the comment box. Do it in the answer box.

[noContact706]

That was my problem though if she would have just said I no longer am interested in you I would be fine to move on but she told me she isn't ready for a relationship at the moment and said if it was or wasn't bull**** about how she can see us have a long relationship not at this time

[Homegirl 50]

Then that is what she meant. Go on with your life. Maybe she thought to let you down easier but, if she says lets breakup that is what she meant. She did not put a time limit on it. Don't you do it. Move on.

[martinizing2]

i deleted her off facebook and its been two weeks now i see her in the hallways sometimes and she gives me a half *** smile or a small wave she no longer sits in the usual space and it seems like she is trying to hide or not go anywhere i might be

She is on the right track, Now you do better.

Don't call, don't text, don't wave , no notes, no FB, no American Signing , morse code... nothin.

Kick her to the curb on your way to freedom.

It is not easy, or fast, and is painful. But it is necessary.

I wish you well

[martinizing2]

Do not answer here? OK

[martinizing2]

Good post

[martinizing2]

Could a bit harder than an easy walkaway, but it is time to start.

[martinizing2]

This section is for comments... not answers?

[noContact706]

Could it be she's avoiding me because she's mad that I didn't want to be her friend?