[loverob]

I have always loved larger women but my life path has led me in another direction. I am married with children and believe that I am a great father. I could be a better husband though and now regret not sticking to the physical ideal that I wanted and hoped to find. My wife is a great person but I have not been able to shake my original hopes.

[beachloverjohn]

Not only is it not too late, but you owe it to yourself to follow your dream. It makes perfect sense to me to throw away your family, not to mention the financial disaster that will follow, so you can live your fantasy. Actually, you would be much better off if you start bringing home boxes of bon bons, and dozens of donuts and feeding them to your wife. Then not only will you have your dream woman, but you'll save your marriage in the process.

[Jake2008]

You are a very lucky man, that you have time on your hands to reflect and dream about your perfect woman, while your wife is likely cooking your dinner and washing your underwear, and looking forward to an evening of doing homework with the kids.

Perhaps you should just tuck that little vision in the back of your brain somewhere, and be grateful that you have the riches that you have. And I don't mean financial.

It is sad that you devalue what you do have, and value what you do not. And then you are shallow enough to wonder if it's 'too late for you and your dream of loving a large woman'.

It may be too late for you, but it is certainly not too late for your wife, to find her 'dream man'.

Why not give her the opportunity, and show her your post. Perhaps she should replace you?

[beachloverjohn]

Had to spread the rep Jake, but you're right. Maybe he has a full head of hair, and she always dreamt of being with Kojac (or Howie Mandel for those younger members}

[Fr_Chuck]

The simple fact is before you marry or even date serious is when you follow what you think you want. In fact if that is what you wanted, why did you not date only large women.

But yes you need to start working on your marriage

[beachloverjohn]

I can see the OP point. I left my family 20 years ago so I could pursue my dream of being with Raquel Welch. But I may have made a mistake though, I ended up with a woman who could pass for Shrek.

[Enigma1999]

Don't you think it's only fair that you be honest with your wife?

Why waste her time on you if you want something more? Notice Loverob how I said MORE, not else.

If you aren't feeling it for your wife, then let her off the hook and go.

I would only hope that a man would want me for me and not how I look.

Oh and Jake2008, I had to spread the rep. You were spot on.

[martinizing2]

I have always loved larger women but my life path has led me in another direction. I am married with children and believe that I am a great father. I could be a better husband though and now regret not sticking to the physical ideal that I wanted and hoped to find. My wife is a great person but I have not been able to shake my original hopes.

What a textbook definition ( my textbook anyway) of unappreciative and shallow.

How many people would love to be in your shoes? Thousands.

Open up your eyes and mind and appreciate the heaven you live in.

Then open up your wallet and send the lady who carried your children roses and candy.

I wish you the wisdom to realize you are doing well.

[beachloverjohn]

What a textbook definition ( my textbook anyway) of unappreciative and shallow.

How many people would love to be in your shoes? Thousands.

Open up your eyes and mind and appreciate the heaven you live in.

Then open up your wallet and send the lady who carried your children roses and candy.

I wish you the wisdom to realize you are doing well.

While he's at it, he might send her on a vacation. She might need one... away from him..

[martinizing2]

I cannot imagine not wanting a vacation away from a person such as him.

[martinizing2]

I may have dated her too.

[martinizing2]

That seems an easy and logical thing to do. As always Jake, great post.

[CravenMorhead]

Okay. I see what you're doing here. You are wanting to make a decision, but you're unsure so what other people to validate the decision you're afraid to make. Follow?

Is it too late? No. It is never too late to do anything. You need to weigh your options though. Do you want to leave this life for something that may or may not happen. The emotional, financial, and legal whirlwind that will follow and destroy, or irrevocably alter, your lives and the lives of your family.

You want one of us to say yes so that you can justification this decision. No coming bucko. This is a decision you need to make for yourself. You have to justify this with yourself.

Once you start, you'll not be able to go back to the way things are.

My best advice is to rediscover your wife. Figure out why you fell in love with her. On the side, look up BBW porn to satiate your cravings.

Don't try to pawn your important life decisions on us.

[loverob]

Great reply guys, good to see the high and mighty alive and strong. I'm also pleased to see that your marriages are all so perfect. I hope you all do as much of the child and house work as I do.
Yes the question is shallow, it was meant to be as I am merely male. Remember that there are two sides to every marriage. Your reply's do help though to keep things in perspective.

I do hope too that any "larger" "women" who read the question realize that there are men out there, shallow as we are, that love you the way you are "physically" and wouldn't want you any other way.

[Enigma1999]

Yes the question is shallow, it was meant to be as I am merely male.

I'm sorry, but I don't agree with this. I think YOU are shallow because of you, not because you are a man. There are a lot of men who aren't like you. Sorry.

... just saying

[Enigma1999]

Remember that there are two sides to every marriage. Your reply's do help though to keep things in perspective.


Yes, there are, but you only told us your side.

[loverob]

I hope it's not too painful for you when you figure it out. Some men are just better at playing the game than others. Some are not even interested in playing the game and like to tell it as it is.

[Enigma1999]

I hope it's not too painful for you when you figure it out. Some men are just better at playing the game than others. Some are not even interested in playing the game and like to tell it as it is.

Once again Loverob, I respecfully disagree with you. You can't put all men in the same category as you.

That would be like me saying to a man, I am a snob (even though I'm not) and sooner or later you will figure out that all women are. Some some just play it nicer than others.

Hmmmm?

[JudyKayTee]

I hope it's not too painful for you when you figure it out. Some men are just better at playing the game than others. Some are not even interested in playing the game and like to tell it as it is.

At what point did you tell your wife you're not interested in playing the game and like to tell it as it is - "as it is" meaning that you prefer large women?

Oh, wait, it appears you haven't.

[JudyKayTee]

Great reply guys, good to see the high and mighty alive and strong. I'm also pleased to see that your marriages are all so perfect. I hope you all do as much of the child and house work as I do.
Yes the question is shallow, it was meant to be as I am merely male. Remember that there are two sides to every marriage. Your reply's do help though to keep things in perspective.

I do hope too that any "larger" "women" who read the question realize that there are men out there, shallow as we are, that love you the way you are "physically" and wouldn't want you any other way.

Most men won't admit to being shallow because of their gender. Good to see you've come to terms with that.

I suspect that larger women reading that you like larger women but married a smaller women will NOT be reassured by your opinions - in fact, I don't think they'll much care.