[Mel_126]

I'm really desperate and without any hope that things could ever get any better.
I have to cope with break up (which I'm finding really hard), I can't go out as I don't have anyone to go with, I've got no friends, and I really need to get thinner.
I just can't get one of them right! I am sad all the time, the friends I had are making it obvious that they don't want me to hang out with them anymore. I don't know what to do! :(

Any help please? At least anything I can do which takes my mind off these problems?

[krondorianchic]

Hmmmhmm get busy... don't think much about it.. the guy for you will come on the right time.. I have a sister whose now graduating in college.. she's enjoying her busy sched and she doesn't have a boyfriend.. she's actually pretty.. she said.. she'll just wait for the guy to come to her

[dontknownuthin]

The funny thing is that when you're desperate for friends it's hard to find them because it's too much responsibility for them to fulfill all your needs. If you start filling your schedule with things that will improve your own life though, it will make you more interesting, you will have things to talk about, you will find you will be filling many of your own needs, and friends you do meet will not feel pressured to be your everything in life.

Having too much time can make anyone lonely but being in school (at any age), getting a job (part time or full time), pursuing a hobby (scrapbooks, photography, whatever) and joining things (does your community or church have a choir? Singing is a really great way to prevent depression, I think). Also look at things in your life you'd like to change - sounds like you want to loose weight, so start working out. Make it a daily thing for 45 minutes - that will be 45 minutes when you aren't lonely and feel like you're moving forward in life.

The friends will come, you're just in a lull between the last phase of life and the next. Don't waste the time feeling sorry for yourself - work on you and the rest will fall into place.

[Enigma1999]

Hello Mel,

You mentioned that the friends you had make it obvious that they don't want you around. Why is that?

Did you actually ask them why they don't want to hang out with you any more?

I could recommend things that will occupy your time, but you need to get to the root of the problem here.

[txbigred]

1 how old are u? 2 if you need a friend to talk to I'm pretty good with that! Umm but that's up to u, 3 there is a lot to say and figure out what is going on between you and your friends and your (ex)bf, if you want I can try to help u, I've been known to be pretty good about it, but [email protected] is my email, you can email me or if you got a Yahoo IM me at any time.

[RadioActive697]

Well you could go out and try to make other friends that will treat you better or you could go out and do something you really like like getting your toes done or going shopping or going to the movies etc. You can do those things to take your mind off it and I'm sure you will make a good friend you just have to get out there and try! Goodluck!