[Broken_Heart11]

I knew a girl about a year ago online. She is not from my country. I was fond of her. She was asking me if I love her, and I did not want tell her that quickly. I wanted us to know each other more. Then, she stayed away from me for two months with rare contact. Then she surprised me that she fell in love with a guy not from her country too. I was shocked of that news. Then I decided to be away from her because I did not want to disturb her relationship. But as I did that, she tried to come closer to me, sharing me her cares and tragedies in life. She was orphaned and picked up to live with a family. I sympathized with her. Then she told me that can not go on with her beloved because he used to hurt her and humiliated her every time. She was flirting me with her dreams of making a family and having children. She forced me to love her very much. After some time, I found in her previous lover's profile that she love him, I decided to leave her, asking her not to betray him again. But after that day, she asked me to forgive her, and she said she love only me, and I noticed that he hurt her again. Then I go on love with her, after I noticed that their relationship turned to be friendship. I sent her valuable gifts and money, and we decided to get married. I applied for a visa for her to come to me , and that cost me too much, but I did not care about that as long as she loves me. And I paid for the tickets and for the hotel and for everything for her and her girlfriend who would come with her to me. But before she came to me, I discovered that she was contaction with her previous lover and their relationship was going on. I felt cheated, and I decided to leave forever, but again she told me that she can not give up her relationship with him easily, and she need some time to do that. She showed me that she loved only me, and I told her if she wanted me , she had to tell him the truth. She promised me that she had told him. She told me that their relationship was normal because they can not meet each other, because they are away from the reality. Then she came with her girlfriend. I spent with her the most beautiful days in my life, even we had sex and we did everything. But we could not got marry in my country, so decided to go to her country to marry her there. After she came back, she started changing towards me while I was preparing the required documents of marriage in her country. I insisted on her why she chanhed towards me. She used to say that I am selfish that I did not give her time for personal life. I appologized for that. Then I discovered that she was contacting with her previous lover, when I told her why she betrayed me again, she said that I am very good, and she loves him. Then her girlfriend told her lover that she came to me, and he felt shocked, and I noticed that she never told him the truth. She accused me of telling him that, and I never told him that. Then she begged me not to tell him that we had sex together, and not to send him our photos, and she said that she would suffer all her life because she hurt me. I am really shocked with thatI I can not understand that. And her loved is used to sending me bad messages that I am traitor and bad and something like that, and I never tried to hurt him because I still respect her, and never tried to provoke him with my relationship with her because I promised her that I would never tell anybody about that. Through her profile, I understood that she told him that I exploited her, and she gave me abod picture to him, only to make him forgive her. Then she sent me a message to forgive her about that..

She hurt me so much after I loved her so much. I gave her everything, love, gifts-laptop, watches, mobile , roses, and money whenever I felt she was in need of money. And when she came to me I spent a lot of money only to make her live her life, and I bought gifts for all her families when she came back to them. I do not regret about the money, I only regret my love to her and my time that wasted with her.

Now, I can not comprehend that. Why she hurt me in such away, and I intended to leave her many times, but she begged me to return to her because she said it was only me who could brought happiness to her life.

Now, I feel disappointed, frustrated, hopeless. I will never forgive her... And what I can say: Gold only will take my revenge on her... And I knew thatshe will come back to me one day when he will hurt her and humiliate her again, then I do not know what to do.

Now, I would like you to tell me what to do, and what shall I do if she return to me asking for forgiveness...
I need your help...
Thanks for your reading my story

[Devorameira]

She's straight out lied to you, cheated on you, and treated you with total disrespect. I don't see anything loving in that.

If she were to apologize to you, you should accept her apology, but definitely do not form any relationship at all with her. Don't even be her friend, she doesn't deserve your friendship. Have no contact with her before or after the apology.

[talaniman]

Red Flags every where that you ignored!!!!

She didn't force you to fall in love with her dreams of the future and stories, you allowed your feelings to get in the way of good common sense that should have made you cautious of this person given that it was online, and long distance.

Maybe that was her plan, but you always had an option as to your own actions.

You totally ignored the fact she was online, and in "love" with another, and should have realized that she may be doing the same thing with others, as she did with you. More so your own actions is what you should be mad about, and learn from, that the line of hooey she fed you that you ate up without question, or restraint.

The morale of your story is you should NOT just swallow the whole story an online person tells you, and you should certainly NOT get carried away by your own feelings, and throw common sense out the window.

No, you never take her back, not ever. You disappear from her life, and get a more honest, loyal, trustworthy person, to share time and money with.

For sure you should be cautious of any one you don't know well, especially online. People will say and do anything to accomplish their own agenda, if you let them. Forgive yourself, and be smarter, more aware in the future. Sorry you had to learn the hard way.

[Broken_Heart11]

Thank both of you for your valuable comments.
I was never fool in my life. I was warning my friends to fell fool with such things. But this girl was different. No one knows how we started our feelings, but then she started her cheating. We started furnituring our flat together, buying online washinh machine and other things together. We planned together. She never asked me money or gifts or anything else so that I could call myself fool. I did that willingly. Even her family were afraid of me to cheat on her. They told me to stay away from their daughter. I felt her love at first but when her ex-lover returned to her, she changed towards me, and started cheating on me..

She forgot that the laptop that she used to contact him was paid by me when her family had prevented her from using the family PC. She forgot that the mobile that she is using to send SMS to him was given by me when her family refused to buy her one. She forgot that the watch about her hand which she is used to calculating the seconds waiting for him was given by me to her. I hate talking about my virtues over her, but I am mourning myself, and I wonder how she changed my virtues into tools to assassinate and betray me.

[Starry nights]

The best way to know what one should do is to ask themselves a very basic question : am I happy in this?well,of course you aren't,because if you were you wouldn't have expressed your concerns here.. so,if you aren't happy,then why prolong your unhappiness by allowing her in your life?

The problem is most often what we think to be love isn't love at all... its anything but... but what we do is keep insisting and convincing ourselves that we are in love... how can you even declare you love someone who's made you so unhappy and treated you so shabbily?would anybody caring for another person do that to them?. see the situation and this woman the way they are meant to be seen:with your eyes wide open... then just shrug her off your shoulder like a piece of lint and carry on with your life... and if you feel like taking her back just remind yourself of the pathetic way she's treated you,which should act as the perfect jolt to get you out of any confusion.

[Broken_Heart11]

I am at the sea in this matter. She sent me a message of apologize. She said that she thought that she would be able to forget me after leaving me, but then she realized what was between us can not be compared with any other guy, ans can never erazes from the memory. She said that she is missing me and suffering all the time. She wants me to forgive her... But how I can do that after I knew that she had aborted the baby. She said that all people around her pressed on her to leave me and they told her that I had bought her by money, and so this was why she did that to me. I can not take her return again, but I still love her and at the same time I can not forget the hurt and pains. And, I am still unable to go on with another girl... she ruined everything beautiful in my life... the baby, the dreams, the hopes... Does she deserve my care again? Shall I contact her again? Shall I return to her after the trust has gone? I know that I will miss forever, and I will never forget the pains that she caused me... please I need your answers...

[pandead]

Does she deserve my care again? Shall I contact her again? Shall I return to her after the trust has gone? i know that I will miss forever, and I will never forget the pains that she caused me... please I need your answers...

This is going to be a bit harsh.

Are you really asking if you should return her calls?


Read this, try to understand and repeat it in your head.

This person is a liar. A cheater who broke your heart every time she got a chance.

She made you waste your time and money just to leave you over and over again.

Any person with a tiny bit of sanity would turn around and leave (personally, I would even have a little conversation with her if she did all that to me... )
So my question is : ARE YOU INSANE?

This is not love.
This is not affection or not even desperation.
This is INSANITY.

I know something about being blinded by love but you need to have limits. Because if you go back to her after all she did, you deserve everything she will do to you - again. To be honest, I think YOU and you alone picked the furniture for your house. YOU had dreams and hopes. She PLAYED YOU. She KEPT YOU AROUND just in case. If you even consider returning her calls, I can only say good luck living in a dream and making a fool of yourself.