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    Amo89 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 20, 2010, 05:37 PM
    Girl says she isn't ready for the love I bring her what should I do ?
    Well we have been talking for 9 months. She got out of a relationship and we were friends. Started spending time and feelings came into play. Talking frequently and having sex. She says she didn't expect this to happen and she says she's not ready for the love I bring to her. I'm not sure if I should stick around and wait for her to make up her mind or if I should keep it moving ?
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    Enigma1999 Posts: 2,223, Reputation: 1077
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    Sep 20, 2010, 07:43 PM

    Hello Amo,

    I think that she made it pretty clear that she is not ready. This doesn't mean that you are doing anything wrong. She's just not ready.

    I can appreciate her honesty about it.

    These things happen, where people end a relationship with one, then start another one pretty quickly.

    You never know what the future will bring, you two might end up together.

    For now, just let her be.
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    Sep 21, 2010, 07:31 AM

    Give her the time that she is needing. Do you want a lasting relationship with this woman or do you want to be know as the rebound!! She has been upfront and honest with you, please give her the same courtesy. Good luck
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Sep 21, 2010, 07:39 AM

    In your mind you were a couple and now you find out you are just friends with benefits as she gets over her last relationship.

    Maybe it took you 9 months to figure it out, but now that you know what the deal is then you have a choice to make, stay or go!

    Just me, but you stayed to long to begin with, and had your own reasons, hoping for more, no doubt, but now you have to face facts and deal with reality of the situation. She may be a great date and sex partner, but not a girlfriend. To have that kind of relationship with someone, you have to let your sex buddy go. To heal from the disappointment of this experience, you have to get out of her life. It really is that simple, its just coping with those feelings for her that will be hard.

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