[hotbay415]

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Why does my man ingnore me and talk down to me all the time now

[Enigma1999]

Hello Hotbay,

Could you please be more specific?

How does he ignore you and talk down to you?

How old are you both?

How long have you two been together?

Thank you.

[Alty]

We really don't know why. It could be that that's just the kind of person he is.

[JoeCanada76]

Maybe because you nag and complain too much, but that is just speculation.

There is obviously a loss of communication at some point. Please explain your situation so we can give you better answers then just basing it all in guessing what is going on.

We can not read your mind.

[hotbay415]

[Jake2008]

I think that the way you explained your problem, might be indicative of a lack of skill in the communication department.

What happened 'recently' that has pretty much changed your entire relationship?

With what you have said so far, it is impossible to answer with any substance.

[hotbay415]

Together 2 1/2y communication and sex great until he started going out with cousin more which turned into a few overnighters too drunk to drive. Started to be on computer with games and porn then game friends lied about porn and talking with new females about our relationship how bad I annoy him etc I seen his chat history one time. Still does things behind my back like talk bad about me to other people lie about where he is etc then I find out ask him he gets angry tells me I have no right checking on him and he doesn't have to tell me everything. But if it concerns me or he knows it will bother me than why do it and hide it. I've found girls numbers which he denys we don't communicate very well and lately he lost his erections a few times during sex wants me to be on my stomach mostly and doesn't initate sex on a daily basis like before. He tells me to quit acting stupid talks should say yells at me like a child a few times said I discust him but I get compliments all the time from others asking why is he like that to me. I say I don't know I am not a jealous person but lately I feel insecure he waits until I fall asleep to go in and out watches porn after sex when I sleep. Locks the door when I leave sometimes to watch porn never locks it normally. Accuses me on a few occasions has no need to comfort me when I'm sad tells me to quit with the sympothy thing which I don't want. When we argue I hear a lot now that this is it its over yet still here. What can or should I do. Do I stay or do I go?

[mystific]

Well it'd be safe to say he's found a new life in which he's made himself look like the 'hard done by', 'stuck in an endless relationship', 'poor poor me' idiot.

He argues with you to cover the guilt (if that's what its called) and makes you feel bad so he doesn't have to be honest with himself or you and still make himself feel good.

He wants out, just too much of a coward to say so. And this is his way of finding kicks on the side.

Listen to your friends. Why are you still with him? Have enough respect and self dignity to leave now before he makes you feel like a piece of trash.

[ladytab]

I agree with the other post - you definitely shouldn't stay. Even if he was the most amazing boyfriend before - those days seem to be over and that he's changed for the worse but probably will not go back to before. People will stay with their significant other in hopes of them going back and being the person they were before - which doesn't usually ever happen.

[Devorameira]

You definitely need to leave him. You may have had great communication and sex at one time, but that's over and he's moved on into a fantasy world.

If you stick around he'll continue to be abusive toward you (yes, his comments toward you are abusive). I would actually look for things to get worse if you stay around.

Why not beat him to the punch and leave him and all his secretive escapades? Find someone who loves you, who treats you well, and who you can trust.

[talaniman]

Why are you still there taking crap like this from him?? Leave.