[Neligna]

Well.. My boyfriend broke up with me after a 8 month relationship(we were friends for 2 years )... We had a pretty smooth relationship and he did love me very much even when we did break up(3 months now).. And the reason was his depression after his best friend of 10 years(who also was his ex for 10 years) passed away. Now I naturally assumed that things can be discussed later when he is all right.. But he told me that the only way to get over this is by letting this go forever. And I'm stuck with an inability to let go thanks to the fact that a)I'm probably a really stupid person and b)I have this idea that its his "depression talk" and not him taking.. He even told me he is OK with me soing out with anyone else. And I kind of know its because he doesn't have any feelings whatsoever! But I'm just stuck with the idea that this can be sorted out later when he is back to normal! What do I do? Just move on(without losing my mind in the process) or try to give it a rest for a while and hope for a fairytale ending?
P.S. This was the first real relationship I had.

[Cat1864]

Yes, you should let go.

No, you aren't 'a really stupid person'.

Maybe it is his depression speaking, however, it may, also, be he doesn't have the same depth of feelings that you do.

Since he has made it clear he doesn't want to continue the relationship at this point in time, you should respect his current needs and let go. Even if you do get back together in the future, you need to have healed from this break up and moved on.

Don't hope for a fairytale ending. They usually end up more like the Brothers Grimm than Disney.

Do get out and do things that help you feel good about yourself. Connect with family and friends that you may have not been in touch with as much over the past eight months. Take care of yourself.

[talaniman]

Yes you should let go, so you both can heal.

No you are not stupid, just hurt, and shocked. That's understandable.

[Neligna]

Thanks a lot Talaniman!

[Neligna]

Thank You, Cat! :)

[lamp_post]

Yea shocked! Agreed!

[JoeCanada76]

Yes let it go, it will take time to heal but until you take the steps for healing you never will.