[jl.1977]

I am a single mothers and I am barely pregnant again.I just got laid off 6 days ago.I would love nothing more than to be able to keep my children SAFE and to give then a future... However,my past does haunt my future therefore I have zero confidence, and absolutely no uself-esteem what so ever.I have a class e felon (drug possession) and I can't seem to find any help for housing and schooling.I live in Nevada, And I am seriously crying out for help .I have no family and don't know what else to do.I am far to weak minded for this.someone please answer me.PLEASE!!

[Fr_Chuck]

Where is the child's father, and the unborn babies father ( just barely) i.e. man you have just recently been sleeping with?

Are you getting child support, have you even been to court for child support. What about child custody is there official paperwork

[jl.1977]

No,there is no child support. My son is two yrs of age.I know I should go for child support but in all honesty I hear so many females talk about how there going to or how they did take there baby's father to court and how much they get and so on & so forth.It sort of turns my stomach. Then I just feel bad and I don't want the wrong impression put on me as far as greed and money.its just not me.I just need help,and I would only get maybe 100 a month he said because that's how much his ex gets.I no,I no,but for that amount is it even worth it.Its cheaper for me if he's not even in my life as well.

[Fr_Chuck]

No it is the child's money and people will think a lot worst on you for not having gone though court, Since a person sitting here "needing" help has not gotten it first from where it should be coming from.

[morgaine300]

How is getting money for your child greed? How is getting a father, who helped screw you and get you pregnant, to help out with his own darn child "greed"?

It's obvious you have no self esteem. You've let yourself get pregnant twice, with men (boys) who didn't stay around. When you have self esteem, you don't let men run over you like that. Then feel guilty for trying to make them take responsibility for their actions. It's your actions as well, but they were half of it. It's not your total responsibility when there were two of you making babies. (Sounds like maybe 3 of you, but 2 in each case.)

Take them to court! And don't judge by what someone says someone else is getting. Each case is different. These guys should just be offering support and not having to be taken to court to get it. And they should also be there as fathers, not just to provide money. Even if you can't live together as a couple, they can be fathers! So if they're not offering this, they're jerks. (Unless you lied and said you were on something when you weren't.)

Granted, they may not be making much money and having a hard time trying to contribute. But you also should not have to bear the total burden here. And there's nothing to feel guilty about.

Then once you're done taking these guys to court, find yourself some free counseling. Check with any welfare programs in the area, local hospitals and clinics, possibly even college students who need some free experience, etc. Because you need some help with the self-esteem issue, which is what is causing all this to happen to begin with. Fixing the money issue isn't going to fix you -- and I think you need some professional help to do that, because you're worth more than this.

[J_9]

I know I should go for child support but in all honesty I hear so many females talk about how there going to or how they did take there baby's father to court and how much they get and so on & so forth.

Don't you think that the father should be 50% responsible for what he helped to create?

It sort of turns my stomach.

And asking for help from strangers over the internet doesn't turn your stomach?

[jl.1977]

To morgain 300.very well put and it gave me a lot to think about.. I appreciate you taking the time out of your day,and giving me some well needed feedback. Thank-you.