[TheJoker]

Me and my girlfriend broke up after just over a year together. Everything was fine and last week she even told me that she loved me and then I had a weird feeling that something was not quite right so I asked her if me and her are OK and she said were fine don't worry and then a week later she dumped me and said that she doesn't love me in the same way anymore. I was completely devastated as she was the love of my life. She said there is no chance that we will be together and even though I'm holding out I know that its best to move on. I called her yesterday and we had a chat and then she said when do you want me to call you again. At that point (in my mind) I was angry because I still love her and she's pretending like 1 year has gone (when it has only been a few days) and were just mates. I just said when ever. But if I'm going to get over I'm set in my mind to cut her off so that she don't play with my head but the thing I want to know is will she be offended if I cut her off completely for a few months? Shall I delete her of Facebook? Shall I tell her that I plan to do these things to help me recover or should I bother not even telling her. I think I want to tell her my plans,I need help because if she starts talking to me I don't think I can stop myself communicating back but if I cut her off completely I think I can do it.

[talaniman]

Then cut her off completely, and heal, since she said you wouldn't get back together no matter what any way.

[Kitkat22]

Delete her. Who cares what she thinks.

[Devorameira]

Delete her and go NC. You shouldn't care about what she thinks, but if it's going to bother your conscience, then just give her one last call and tell her that you don't want her to call anymore and you are going to delete her from your Facebook so you can get over the break up.

[Fr_Chuck]

No you don't "tell her" you just do it, you break all contact, so you don't really care what she thinks

[DoulaLC]

Relationships change... she has decided this wasn't what she wanted. Nothing wrong with that, it happens.

Better she figured it out and told you instead of keeping you going when the feelings aren't there for an exclusive and committed relationship. Or worse yet, as many people come on here to share stories of someone cheating when they should have just ended the relationship in the first place.

If you think remaining on good terms with her, and talking now and then, would be too difficult right now, then let her know that you need to end contact for awhile. Maybe in time you will get back in touch with her and will be OK with just being mates... maybe you won't. If you have no desire to even be mates at some point, then there is no need to tell her.

[JoeCanada76]

Who really cares if she get offended or not. It is time to let go and delete her of the Facebook.

[DoulaLC]

I guess I am looking at this differently. I don't see anything wrong with her ending the relationship.

From the sounds of it she wasn't overly harsh about it, she didn't go out and cheat on him, she simply decided the relationship wasn't what she wanted any longer and let him know.

The OP may very well want to remain friends with her... perhaps not in close contact right now while he is still dealing with the end of the relationship, but later on when he comes to terms with things.

If he thinks they could be friends, then he should be honest with her and let her know he needs time to himself and that he will find it easier if there is no contact. If he doesn't have any interest in remaining friends with her, then it won't matter if he doesn't tell her.

[talaniman]

Talaniman Rule- While they are dumping you, never say you can't be friends. Agree to whatever they want, then disappear from their life.

If you are doing your own thing you won't have time to be so available as you were when you were together. I think you are more worried about how she feels than the idea of getting dumped, and that's your mistake, because she will be doing her own thing, and isn't worried about what you are doing any way, until she gets bored, or curious. Your new priorities are a bit screwed up at the moment, I think.

Your healing and moving on should be your priority, not what she may, or may not feel.

[Kitkat22]

It shouldn't matter to you what she thinks. Don't start second guessing taking her off FaceBook.
She wanted out. Don'r contact her at all.

[beachloverjohn]

Don't have anything to do with her for a few months. No contact at all. Then ask the same question. I guarantee your answer will be "who cares what she thinks"