[lovedrunk]

I moved from my home in Australia, and am now currently in London. Im 23 and two other mates were going to england to work and travel, something I have always wanted to do so when the oppurtunity came up I jumped at the chance not really taking anything else into consideration... my girlfriend of 2 years for example. We had a rocky to say the least relationship, lots of jelousy and fighting we'd break up for a day or to a lot but we'd always be back together and I think this is part of the reason I thought there was something better out there. I have only been here for for 1 month, for the first week and a bit I was fine, obviously missing her but generally OK, the past two weeks I am going insane... I have realised a lot of the problems we had were caused by me and I have realised how much I do truly love her, and I want to be next to her. I wish it was as simple as getting on a plane, going back and sweeping her off the ground saying sorry I love you please give me another go. But, its never simple, about 4 months agao we broke up for about for 2 or 3 weeks and she hooked up with another guy and I another girl, as soon as I left to come here she was talking to that same guy again and when I talk to her now she basically says she doenst know if she loves me, I know she does but its hard hearing that from a girl I would do just about anything for now (it wasn't like that when I was at home and ithnk that's why she's skeptical) gaaaaaaaaah I'm going crazy this doesn't even make sense! Anyway I have booked a ticket home and I have to go try, I think I will regret it for the rest of my life if I don't go home and find out, I just waana know if everyone thinks I'm wasting my time and a lot of money doing this...

[mattyp]

Uve realised uve made a big big mistake, but she might think you are going back for a quick jump. Make sure she knows how you really feel because I'm betting she feels really quite confused when you see her. As for her seeing another guy, can you blame her, she was used to you been there for comfort and then you just left.
Just ask yourself, if it was the otherway around, would you want to have been left on your own? Maybe you have lost her but ull never find out if you can get another chance by sitting about crying about it. If you love her and want to be with her , that doesn't mean you can't have ambitions. If you are lucky enough to get her back, why don't u include her in your plans. Word of advise, don't go back sobbing, because uve ditched her once so she probably needs a bit of stability. Good luck.

[talaniman]

Do your thing and enjoy your trip, because no matter what you think you know what she has told you, and what she is doing, and you should take her at her word because her actions say that they are true.

You won't go insane, you just need the time to do other things. I mean come on, your living your dream of a lifetime, and many never get to do that! Enjoy it while you can.

[Cat1864]

lovedrunk, slow down. It seems one of your big problems in the relationship is that neither of you took time to heal and work through the issues before you were back together again.

Take this time to heal and let the past go. You need to clean the slate in your own mind to be able to show her (and yourself) that you are ready to work through the issues and attempt to start anew.

You may think you are at that point now, however, it probably is the fact that you are feeling a bit lonely and building a fantasy in your mind. Give yourself time to work past that stage to be certain of what you want. If you think you are seeing things clearly now, take a bit longer to make certain.

Give her time to decide if she feels the same way. Rushing back would be like saying that your feelings mean more to you than hers do.