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macycher123 · Sep 16, 2010, 10:59 PM

My ex and I broke up about three years ago except as time goes on I still think about him more and more. We had a nasty break up and I could never tell him how I feel about him. I need another way for him to get the picture without actually having to tell him how I feel. Does anyone have a solution?

rusrssty · Sep 17, 2010, 06:21 AM

3 years is a long time, Just send a text saying, hi how are you, he will text back if he feels something for you. If he texts back don't reply for a couple of days, then responed.

answerme_tender · Sep 17, 2010, 06:58 AM

3 years, and it was a nasty breakup. First really think about this, are you forgetting the things that broke you up in the first place. We have all been here in our lives, we haven't found anyone that we can really have that special connection with. So we get lonely and that is were we start forgetting why we broke up with our ex's and start fantasizing about them. We convince ourselves it really wasn't that bad, why I can remember a lot of great times, the romance,etc.
Actually bottom line is we have forgotten!! We have forgotten the misery,hurt,anger, and all the tears we shed while being with this person. Loneliness is very hard to live with and deal with. It doesn't mean we aren't going out with other men or being with friends. Sometimes it means we just haven't found that special connect YET!! Really the choice is yours, just make sure it's the right choice for you and not your lack of connection with someone else. Good luck!!

talaniman · Sep 17, 2010, 07:02 AM

Why would you be wasting your time trying to get back what you lost 3 years ago? That's done and over with.

I think you do better trying to figure out why you still think of him still after all this time. What has your feelings stirred up again, or what's going on in your life that has you dwelling, or obsessing on the past?

88sunflower · Sep 17, 2010, 07:05 AM

Are you thinking of him in ways of wanting him back or just curious how his life has turned out? You need to keep in mind what your telling us. It was a three years ago and a nasty break up. In my opinion I would leave it alone. If he wanted you back its been so long he would have tried by now. I don't think this time apart heals wounds. You just have forgotten the hurt and reasons for the split. Also you should keep in mind he might be happy with someone else. How would you feel if someone you were with had an ex that tried to contact them? I would leave it alone. Its history. Sometimes history shouldn't repeat itself.

Shadowburn · Sep 17, 2010, 07:51 AM

Write down everything you ever wanted to tell him. Don't censor yourself. Whatever you feel about your break up, and anything else you'd ever want to tell him straight to his face without fear of being misunderstood or misjudged.

Then burn the letter and let it go.

macycher123 · Sep 17, 2010, 08:06 PM

Thank you all for the great advise I hope it helps it just most of the time I'm okay and I don't even think about him. But there are some days where I just miss him and I don't know what to do with myself

sylviaL · Sep 18, 2010, 06:01 AM

Hi, Im in the same situation as you, and I have been in love with him for the three years that we have been apart. A while ago I may have had the opportunity to get back with him but I didn't want to risk being rejected and hesitated, and now its not an option. I think you should ask yourself if you really do love him, is he a good man and someone you see a future with. If so I think you should tell him how you feel, or else you could regret it. If not let it go. Whenever you start thinking about him just tell yourself you don't want those thoughts and they will eventually go and you can get on with your life.
All the best