[rashmiupadhyay]

Mine is love marriage.Its almost 3yrs of marriage.He is only 10thpass.From the very beginning of our marriage we had terrible fights.He abused,beat,drink etc.At that time I discussed it with my parents.They came down & everything got settled.But now again from the last 9months we had fight he beated me really veary badly.I really want to escape but I didn't discuss it with anybody.We are not financially strong.My husband & his mom pushed me for job.I started working as aa executive assistant in an institute.There I had to out for work with my boss.This was not liked by my husband.He started doing enquries.I don't want to continue my job.But he forced me to do it.One day when my husband was not at home I was talking to my boss & I requested him to hide from my husband that he is in town so that my husband can live without tention.This conversation was recorded by my husband.Now he feels I & my 40yr old boss are going around.I asked him to leave the job,I had explained him each & every thing but he is not ready to listen.He sits at home,I go for work I get tired.Mostly he watch XXXX films & want to try those positions with me but because of my tiredness & tentions I don't show interest he starts long arguments & don't make me sleep.There are times when I only had a 2hrs sleep & went for work.I even reports him each movement of mine then also he doesnot trust me.I am feeling extremely misrable person because I can't able to do anything & don't want to discuss all this with my parents otherwise they will get tensed.I really want to die or runaway.2 days back also he slapped me,yesterday night also he made me awake & made me cried.Please suggest me some solutions.

[twinkiedooter]

Why are you supporting this lazy porno addicted person? You need to get some self respect for yourself going and ditch this guy while you sill can. Any man who hits his wife will do it again and again until the violence escalates and gets totally out of hand. He's basically bleeding you to death financially having you support his lazy behind sitting at home.

Please leave him so you can think clearly about just what you want to get out of your relationship. Do you want to keep being basically his "slave" working for him while he luxuriates at home doing whatever he wishes to do? Or do you want a real man who would hold a job and be a real husband to you? It's your choice here. It will take a lot of soul searching on your part to honestly decide this. Love should have nothing to do with your decision either as most abused spouses actually "love" their abuser.

Maybe you have a girl friend or family member you could stay with while you are making your mind up about whether to continue in this abusive relationship.

[Fr_Chuck]

He beats you, end of story, go to work tomorrow and just don't go back home.