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    Skyrocket Away Posts: 173, Reputation: 6
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    Sep 9, 2010, 12:27 PM
    Why do I think about women during sex with my husband?
    I find myself often thinking about women and having sex/touching/kissing women while I'm having sex with my husband. I don't know why this happens and it isn't something I WANT to happen. I often also look at women and find them attractive and find myself sexually attracted to them. I don't want to have these feelings and I don't enjoy them in the slightest. I'm not a homophobe or anything of that sort, but personally, for me, I don't want to feel this way. What's wrong with me? Why am I feeling like this when I clearly don't want to? I'm very depressed over it... Help? )':

    I should also note that I am still attracted to men and find them very appealing. But I wish these thoughts and feelings about other women would stop...
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    CravenMorhead Posts: 4,532, Reputation: 1065
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    Sep 9, 2010, 12:46 PM

    Sexual identity isn't black or white but a spectrum there in. There is nothing wrong with you; this is just the way you are.

    This doesn't mean that you're homosexual or even bisexual. You're still having sex with your husband and it sounds like you're still enjoying having sex with your husband.

    So what can you do here. Sit back and figure out what and why you're attracted to females. Is it purely sexual or is it is aesthetically. If you're really concerned about it maybe go to a therapist to have a chance to talk this out in a neutral environment.
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    Skyrocket Away Posts: 173, Reputation: 6
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    Sep 9, 2010, 03:36 PM
    I do still enjoy sex with my husband and almost always climax during.

    The attraction to women is purely only physical. I can never see myself actually being with a women other then in a sexual way.
    But your right, and thank you very much for your answer.
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    Sep 11, 2010, 06:58 AM

    Everyone fantasizes - this is what you fantasize about.

    I don't see a problem.
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    Sep 18, 2010, 11:32 AM
    Fantasies are perfectly normal. Trust me when I say that he is probably thinking of something erotic also.Just don't call him Nancy!!

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