[Fisherman1967]

She used to but now she says I'm smothering her?

[J_9]

Then stop smothering her.

Every couple needs their own time and their own personal space.

[Fisherman1967]

Yes but Is calling her after work and seeing her 2 times a week smothering? I think not!

[Fisherman1967]

Yes but Is calling her after work and seeing her 2 times a week smothering? I think not!

[Dysenchanted]

"Get back at her"?

Okay.

How do you know she doesn't love you? Just because she said she needs you to not smother her?

I doubt she doesn't love you she's just feeling... well... smothered. We all do it at some time but you might just need to back off a bit. Let her have her space. Every relationship is built on give and take, you need to allow her to be herself and do things on her own sometimes.

[Wondergirl]

You're annoying me, and I don't even know you, so I can only imagine how your girlfriend feels. When you post a question and start with, "How do I get back at my girlfriend for not loving me enough?", I don't get a warm and fuzzy feeling.

[J_9]

Fisherman1967 : Yes but Is calling her after work and seeing her 2 times a week smothering? I think not!

Okay, now had you put that in your originial question my answer might have been different. You do realize we are not psychics right?

To get an informative answer you have to provide us with information.

[Wondergirl]

Yes but Is calling her after work and seeing her 2 times a week smothering? I think not!

How long do you talk on the phone? Does she try to get off, and you send her on a guilt trip so she stays on?

When you see her twice a week, where and how long?

[Dysenchanted]

How old are you two?

Has she said why she thinks you're smothering her?

[talaniman]

How do I get back at my girlfriend for not loving me enough?

By leaving her alone and getting a girlfriend who does love you enough.

[rclea]

You can get back by loving yourself more. Forget about her and do well with your life. That´s the sweetest revenge you can give your ex.

[Alty]

Is she still your girlfriend or is she your ex?

Getting back at someone because they don't have the same feelings you do is a concern. Have you thought about counseling? You may want to look into that.

If you're still together obviously she does care enough not to dump you. Personally, your title alone would be reason enough for her to show you the door.

Get help figuring out why you want revenge on someone just because you love them and you don't feel they love you back. Very worrisome.

[answerme_tender]

Your wanting permission for revenge. You can't make someone love you, but you can love yourself enough to move on and find that special person that needing someone to love them like only you can!!

[Fisherman1967]

Hello, my girlfriend of 8 months says I am smothering her. She says she needs space. How should I take this and how much space should I give her? I am 43 and she is 46. Thank you.

[Fisherman1967]

Sorry, I did not word that correctly, I was upset and do not want to get back at her.

[Fisherman1967]

I just wanted some insight and trying to figure out what is in her head because she is so cold to me and did not give me any warning.

[beachloverjohn]

I would take it that she needs time to herself, time to spend it with friends or by herself, time away from you, does not want to get third degreed, does not want to account for everything she does, does not want to be pressured, does not want to be manipulated by making her feel bad or guilty because she wants space, and wants to take it a little slower. Start doing some things on your own also, and if she wants a break for awhile, then respect her enough to agree to this, and if that means no contact for awhile, then do it. If you don't you will end up pushing her right out of your life, and I'm sure that's not what you want.

[Fisherman1967]

Hi, my girlfriend of 8 months wants her space and she says I want it all? Well what should I want if not all? What does she want? Can you help/?

[Marriedguy]

Time away from you.

[Fisherman1967]

That does not help me at all!