[Donavan_M]

Well I'm deployed with the Navy to Europe. I have a fiancé of three years back home! After about six months in to my deployment she cheats on me with an exfriend of mine! It's the kind that they started as friends then they got closer and then **** several times! I trusted this girl with everything! I took the whole thing farely well. I was pissed as all hell but then we talked about it over some time. I forgave her because I'm in love! She says she wants some time to think! So I get home in three months and she already wants nothing to do with me. Even after I tell her I forgave her and I want to stay together! What should I do? Kick her *** to the curb or try to keep the realationship going? Your comments are the deciding factor! Remember this is a real life love quarrel and either way I'm going to get back home and kick this guys ****ing ***!

[beachloverjohn]

Keep this relationship going? Even if you had that choice, which you don't, why would you? Why do you want to lower yourself to stay with someone who cheats while you are serving your country, and tells you it's over? C'mon, have some pride. Be smart. Remove both your girlfriend AND your friend from your life. Do not kick anybody's ***, that is kid stuff. Just don't bother with either of them anymore. Who wants to be with someone that doesn't want to be with them anyway. Move on, stop all contact, and someday you'll meet someone better.

[Kitkat22]

I don't think you should take her back. You are serving your Country and she chose that time to cheat? She isn't worth the trouble.

Don't fight the guy. You are taught to be tough in the Military.
You know what will happen if you do.. It's going to give her a thrill
To see two guys fighting over her.

Instead leave her alone and don't you dare beg her to come back anymore. You are too good for her. Let them have each other and remember "what goes round, comes round'.

Be a gentleman and don't pay any more attention to either of them.
They deserve each other.

[mystific]

A very good friend of mine who is a Marine and deployed overseas, lost his fiancée to a friend who was 'comforting' her while he was away.

He took the high road and 15 months later met the girl of his dreams, married and have 2 young children.

There is light at the end of the tunnel if you choose the high road :)

[Kitkat22]

Girls love it when guys fight over them. They usually tell their friends about and how they can have you back anytime. It's true.

Leave them both alone and let them make each other miserable.

[talaniman]

Bow out gracefully, and keep your dignity, and self respect as befitting the soldier that you are, for which I thank you, for your sacrifices.

[Jake2008]

I can only imagine how devastated you must be, and confused, and not really thinking clearly, because you are not yet actually home.

Maybe this does not seem so real, because you are so far away.

What it may take, is for you to see her in person, and hear her words, and then it will sink in that it is true, and there is nothing left for you to do but move on.

She has already told you she wants nothing to do with you, so it really isn't a choice for you to kick her to the curb, take her back, or forgive her. She has made her decision, and as rotten a thing it is that she has done, what's done is done, and she has already cut ties with you.

I agree with the others that you would do well to have very low expectations, and prepare for more hurt and disappointment when you are finally home, because you will have to deal with this. I'm sure that until you are actually home, and realize in person that the relationship is over, you will hold out hope.

When that happens, I hope you will stay strong, and in the meanwhile, start thinking of yourself as single again, and all the world is your oyster so to speak. Best to accept that it's over now, rather than find out what kind of person she is after marrying her and having a few babies and a mortgage.

And, thank you for your service.

Best of luck to you.

[Donavan_M]

Wow, You have the best advice overall! I thought about most of those items but now it all fits together! I will have to accept all those points! It will be hard and I kind of don't want to lose her but there's no way I can trust her ever again! Thank you