[ScOrPio_95]

I'm dating this guy and I fell in love with him when we were just friends and then when we started dating things didn't seem the same he doesn't talk to me as much or come over as much I'm kind of confused and hurt what should I do?

[Jake2008]

If you don't have the courage to talk to him, in person, and ask him what's going on, and why you are concerned, you are only left with guessing and hurt feelings.

Any relationship has its times and moments, where things are done and said by one, and the other takes the meaning entirely out of context. This could be one of those things.

Or, he may be losing interest for whatever reason, and is preparing to end the relationship.

Either way, you should, in my opinion, the next time he's over, find a quiet place, and talk. Either way, you need to know what's going on with him, and if you don't take the initiative, you won't know.

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...nt-505068.html

Could he be waiting to see if your pregnant?? That's what I think.

[ScOrPio_95]

He doesn't even know there's a chance I'm pregnant cause it wouldn't be his... and anytime I try to talk to him he just drops off the face of the earth for days at a time

[talaniman]

So it seems you were in a relationship that has not been long in ending, and you are in a very new one, and to be honest this guy doesn't seem that interested. Why even bother with him at all?

[ScOrPio_95]

Well if I am pregnant il be almost two months.. well today I told him he doesn't have to be with me but he at least needs to say something so I don't waste my time but he still doesn't say anything I'm just really confused were really good together until he got drunk like a weeek ago and then things seem diff

[Jake2008]

Scorpio,

What happens if you are pregnant. You will have to tell him. He needs to have the choice whether to stay and see you through the preganancy, and into an entirely different role as a family.

To have him in the dark about this doesn't seem fair to me. Without him knowing, he could turn around, decide to stay, and think things are okay, and then you hit him with a pregnancy, that is not his.

Please go and see your Doctor and find out one way or the other if you are, or aren't pregnant.

I honestly don't see how you can move forward with this relationship, without knowing.

[ScOrPio_95]

Well I can't tell him anything if he doesn't talk to me? I plan on telling him when I know for sure cause if I'm not that can put a void in our relationship more than there already is

[talaniman]

Whether he says anything or not, his actions say he has no interest in you. Him not talking after only just meeting, and being with you is a sign that things are not that great, nor are you that good together.

I hope you back off some, and see what's happening instead of trying to jump from guy to guy and thinking all is well and after two months you still haven't found out if your pregnant or not? That's so totally unbelievable. Does he know of the other guy?

Sound to me like he knows something and is keeping a safe distance, JUST IN CASE of what?? (you going back to the ex?).

I plan on telling him when I know for sure cause if I'm not that can put a void in our relationship more than there already is

There seems to be a void in the relationship already, don't you think?

[ScOrPio_95]

Yeah he knows about the other guy he's my ex were not together and haven't been for two months.. but he didn't start acting this way until we started dating when we were just friends he was over everyday and night and was blowing up my phone now its three or four texts a day and seeing each other maybe once a week

[Cat1864]

Is he friends with your ex? Any possible feelings of guilt over possibly being the cause of a relationship breaking up? Perhaps he is seeing symptoms (or something on your computer) that he is putting together to come to the thought that you might be pregnant or still thinking about the ex.

I don't want you to take this the wrong way but you need to slow down, take a deep breath, and look at what you are doing.

You have been broken up with your ex for about two months. You don't know if you are pregnant by him. I am betting that he doesn't know about the possible pregnancy (he should). In those two months, (before that falling in love with your friend would have been emotionally cheating on your ex), you fell in love with your friend and started dating him. When did you allow yourself to heal from the break up? Why are you putting your friend in the position of being a rebound because you haven't dealt with your past and present issues concerning your ex?

What happened while he was drunk that might have caused him to rethink the relationship? I think you may have a better idea of what happened that 'night' if you think about it than you realize. Were you drunk, too?

[ScOrPio_95]

No I wasn't drunk I wasn't with him he was with his brother.. and no he's not friends with my ex they've met once and I started my period today so I don't think I'm pregnant but I am for sure making a doc appt.I talked to him today and he said he's sure he wants us to be together so lets what happens from here thanks for the help and advice

[FoxCash]

In my honest opinion you're too young to be dealing with a situation of this magnitude. You first either need to find out on your own if you're pregnant or not, or tell your parents about the possibility of being pregnant and allow them to help you and support you throughout this.

I agree with the other poster your relationship already has a big void in it. There is something going on that he's not willing to talk about and it's upsetting you.

You should end this current relationship and stay away from others in the future until you're ready to handle them and all that comes from it. At 16, you need to figure out who you are before you can add other people and emotions into the mix.

[ScOrPio_95]

See here's the thing everyone looks at age and decides were to young to know anything I've probably been through a lot more than any of you and I may only be 16 but I'm as mature as a 30 year old and just because me and ex broke up two months ago doesn't mean anything this guy isn't my rebound guy he was someone that was there for me when I needed help and I fell in love with him last time I checked that's not a crime and its my choice to tell him I'm pregnant or not but if and when it needs to be brought up he'l know but as of right now I don't even know if I am so what's the point on telling him and probably running our relationship more

[FoxCash]

i may only be 16 but im as mature as a 30 year old

A mature 30 year old wouldn't wait two months to find out if they're pregnant or not. Someone in their thirties would take precautions if they weren't financially or emotionally ready for a child as well.

[ScOrPio_95]

Well sometimes **** happens you can always stop things and as of finding out if I am or not its hard with school and work to make it to the doctors and like I said I started my period so there's a chance that I'm not

[Kitkat22]

well sometimes **** happens you can always stop things and as of finding out if i am or not its hard with school and work to make it to the doctors and like i said i started my period so theres a chance that im not

If you get pregnant you won't have to worry about school. You'll be to be busy changing diapers. You are too young to be having sex. No you're not mature enough to have sex. Why.. because you thought you were pregnant so that tells me you're not using protection. Drinking boyfriend. Grow up. Aids is still out there.

[Cat1864]

just because me and ex broke up two months ago doesnt mean anything this guy isnt my rebound guy he was someone that was there for me when i needed help and i fell in love with him last time i checked thats not a crime

How old is he?

No, it isn't a crime. Age doesn't stop people from doing things that in hind-sight turn out to be very ill-advised. I have given you the same advice I give the 30 year old who gets herself into the same situation you are in. Slow down.

Rebounds happen because the people in them aren't taking time to work through their issues before they jump into the next relationship. He helped you out after you broke up with your boyfriend. Whether you want to believe it or not, you just described how most rebounds begin.

If you want to be mature, then don't get into the cycle of jumping from one relationship into the next one. Be certain that you aren't transferring feelings and baggage from one person to the next.

Another bit of advice: don't have sex until you are fully prepared to be a parent. NO FORMS of contraception are 100% effective and if you aren't pregnant now, it would be better for your body to wait until it is finished growing to go through childbirth. Right now, you should be focused on getting yourself grown up and not a possible child.

[ScOrPio_95]

I really don't care what you guys think if I'm pregnant or not I can still finish school and have a job having a baby doesn't have to stop my life and your never to young to have a kid cause I know what I got myself into and I'm willing to deal with it the only thing that matters is my baby is going to be happy and healthy that's what being a mom is about not the age

[Shadowburn]

Don't try to sit down and talking to him, it's too early for that... sometimes guys pull away to evaluate things and see how he feels about you and the relationship. If you get busy with your own life and act with confidence, he'll be back convinced you're the one he wants.