[brandon303305]

My girlfriend and I have been together a little over 2 years. She is 21 and I am 24. We have been having issues the last 6 months or so, just arguing and what not. She has become depressed, even cutting herself. She says I am the only reason she even stays in dallas as she is from Kansas. Anyhow, last night after we went out to a movie, she started crying and said she was moving back to Kansas to be with her family.. next week... it caught me out of nowhere.. she had been going back there a lot lately as her sister just got married.. im thinking she sees how happy her sister and her new husband are and it makes her feel like we don't and will never have that... I hope that this is a bluff on her part, though she seems set on it. I asked if anything I could do would make her reconsider, she just said its too late, that I have had 2 years to treat her right but I haven't. I feel, for the most part, I've tried my best. She just seems unhappy in general with her job and me and what not. My question is this.. is there anything I can do to change her mind or is there any approach I can take to give me the best chance of not losing her. I love her and I feel like my world just flipped. I just need to know what if anything I can do or how I should approach the situation to give me the best shot. I practically begged her to reconsider last night, and it didn't seem to work. I can't move to Kansas with her as I don't get along with her family anyway, and I will be starting law school soon out here in dallas. What do I do?

[beachloverjohn]

She feels she has given you plenty of time to get it right, so now it might be too late. Unfortunately the time to do something about this has past. She is not bluffing, in my opinion, so the best thing for you to do is wish her well in Kansas, and let her know how you feel, and hopefully she will miss you enough to reconsider a life with you after some time has past. But if you didn't "treat her right" as she said, you will have to do a lot of work if she does give it another chance. The problem in many relationships, and I have been guilty of thisd also, is that we don't realize what we have until it's gone. We take things for granted, get too comfortable with someone, and forget to "listen " to the other person. We become selfish and complacent, and then when The 'love of our life" ends the relationship, we are taken by complete surprise, and then panic sets in. We didn't even know that this really wasn't so sudden, we just didn't see the signs. She may just need time, or she may feel it is over. You never know what the future may bring, but unfortunately, the ball is in her corner and you really can't do much about it anymore.

[Enigma1999]

Hello Brandon,

I have to agree with John. Unfortunately she seems serious about her choice.

Everyone has a breaking point, and two years was hers. I'm sorry for you.

You never know though, she might give you another chance.

May I ask though, how did you mistreat her?

Also, why don't you and her family get along?

[talaniman]

For now, bow out gracefully, and let her do her thing, her way, for her own reasons, and you do yours, without her.