[umberlena]

I was with my boyfriend for 4 years.. things we good till this year.. he was more distant, always angery. Which got me mad too and we start arguing.. he was busy all the time.. he saw me once a week and didn't text much (before he would text like 20 times a day and call). He was changing slowly and kept blaming me that I was stressing him out anytime I asked him to see me. I herd on radio and got an idea. Created a fake Facebook account and friended his friends and him.. first time I wrote him an email he said he was in love with a girl and he is happy. I left it alone.. but now recently when he kept fighting and getting mad over nothing.. I sent an other email and start talking nothing bad.. just how you doing.. I was over his place and found pics of him picking an other girl up and there were text messges to an other girl saying, guess what I am eating and its not your P@$$y, and are you going to be around I will be in your town. I asked him if he was cheating on me.. he said no, the girl in the pic is his friends younger sister. I talked with his friend with my fake id, and his friend said, oh him he is Singel, he hasn't seen him with any girl, however the girls in the pic, they met them at a bar. Also, when I checked the girl who he was texting she wrote a comments on her wall saying"i am mad at you that I only got to see you for thirty seconds Sike, i am glad i got to see you".
I was hurt, before even I call him, he calles me and said why are you asking my friends about me with a fake name.. you are a psyco and I am done with you. He hangs up and than I ask him to me but he said nope, he donest want to deal with a psycho B!tch.. and he is done. He hates me and doesn't want to talk or ever see me. He said I cought him cheating so we should go our seprate way and I should leave him alone. I still love him, I never got to explain or an answer from him about anything. He has been talking about me and a lot of our mutual friends defriends me specially that girl who he went to see. What should I do? I want him back

[BMI]

I think going 'undercover' was a really selfish and childish maneuver on your part. What was it you were hoping to find exactly? To be fair, would you let him look through your personal belongings, your diary, your phone conversations? This is essentially what you did to him. This whole Facebook revolution has made doing things like this a reality, I think it's sad and an invasion of privacy but those that use it are aware of the risk I suppose. I just doubt many would predict that their girlfriend or ex girlfriend would disguise herself as another person in order to solicit information about their relationship. Doesn't anyone talk anymore?

I digress, you deserve what you feel because it was done out of selfishness. There exists plenty of information on this very site regarding the proper approach to a post-breakup (none that I can recall recommend what you did). Not that I think it would have prevented you doing this but to not investigate a better option is your own failing, now you must deal with the consequences.

Leave him alone. I doubt he'd forgive this. Also, he seemed to be distancing himself before you pulled the Spy Game on him, meaning I doubt you had much hope before and certainly not now.

[Shadowburn]

Why would you want him back? He's cheater, liar and called you a psycho *****. Is this your idea of Prince Charming?

Forget all about it and move on. There are better guys out there.

[Homegirl 50]

He is a cheater, he even admitted that you caught him cheating and called you names. Why would you want him back, trust him again, waste another thought on him.
Wake up girl. It's a new day. Leave him to his mess and get yourself a new life.

[Cat1864]

Lesson for the future: If you have to resort to snooping and fraud (fake name and probably fake details to draw information out of him and the others), then it is way past time to get out. Leave before you sink to those levels ever again.

There is no trust or respect left in this relationship. Let it go and work on rebuilding your self-esteem.

Get out and get active in things that help you feel good about yourself. I don't think you will still want him when you learn that you are better than he deserves.

[DoulaLC]

Agree with the others... why would you want someone like that for a boyfriend? He's made it obvious he is no longer interested.

You can't make someone feel what they don't feel.

It's sad, and you will hurt for awhile, but you will get over him and find someone better who won't cheat on you or call you names.

[talaniman]

When the talking, and listening stops, and the games begin, its time to go, and stay gone.