[herminer]

I stimulate my wife by foreplay. During foreplay, I give her clitoral stimulation. At one point she bursts with orgasm and asks me to get inside her. Then I put myself inside her after several strokes I reach my orgasm.

I wish I could bring her orgasm through vaginal intercourse. We have tried sometimes. But she is not stimulated through that manner. Sometimes I get early ejaculation.

My question is.. is it normal type of sex we both are having? How many percentage of couple follow the method that we do? Any suggestion?

[Cat1864]

It is very common for women to need more stimulation to the clitoris to climax than penetration alone gives. Some use the method you currently use. Others use fingers or toys (vibrators, etc.) to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse.

A change of position can help too. Some women find it easier to climax while on top. Some find that 'doggie-style' works for them.

A lot of it is trying different things and seeing what works for the both of you.

Good luck.

[herminer]

Thanks a lot.

[beachloverjohn]

I have known women that can only reach an orgasm by hand manipulation, oral, vibrator, self touching, anything but intercourse. There is nothing wrong with that, it's just what feels good for the woman. Your sexual experiences will be much more enjoyable if you take the pressure off yourself and enjoy all the foreplay, and feel good knowing you both were able to climax , even though the path you took wasn't exactly the way you wanted. Believe me,she feels just as satisfied as if it resulted from intercourse. You got her there , that's all that matters.

[Synnen]

Think of it this way:

Would you be able to reach orgasm if a woman ONLY fondled your balls and never touched your penis? I'm sure a few men could, but the vast majority never would be able to.

The same nerve endings you have in your penis? Hers are in her clitoris. Intercourse for most women, especially with no clitoral stimulation, is about the same as someone fondling your balls. Yeah, it feels good, but it's never going to get her over the top.

[herminer]

Thanks a lot to all of you. I really feel good getting the answers.

[kp2171]

there is no normal. There is what you, a unique person, experiences with her, a unique person with her own wants and needs and desires.

now... that said... more often than not, I absolutely prefer the woman get hers first, whether it through intercourse, oral, or other.

makes complete sense to me for so many reasons. She is likely more lubricated, though that isn't always the case. Her body and mind are more prepared to experience you. You have less pressure to hold back and you can be more in the moment mentally. And on and on and on.

personally, id say about 80% of the time I prefer to get the woman off first. But then there are times when I want it about me now... and my experience, with my partners, has usually been a positive response.

there is just something about knowing your lover Needs this right Now... its great.

the first time a woman reached down during sex to self stimulate I didn't think "what am i doing wrong"... I absolutely thought "she needs this NOW and i hope she does it again cause its sexy as hell"...

so... smoke them if you got them. Work with what works for you. Confidence is sexy. Communication is key. f^(k pretense. Life is too short.

[kp2171]

Think of it this way:

Would you be able to reach orgasm if a woman ONLY fondled your balls and never touched your penis?

Not a bad way to pass the day tho'... just saying. Id sign up for that study.

Until I could take it anymore. Which would be in less than an hour. But who's counting...

The same nerve endings you have in your penis? Hers are in her clitoris. Intercourse for most women, especially with no clitoral stimulation, is about the same as someone fondling your balls. Yeah, it feels good, but it's never gonna get her over the top.

The clitoris has double the innervation as the penis, yet, as mentioned, many sexual positions fail to engage the clitoral network. Yes... its more than just a "button"