[theunknown1]

Ok so my people are getting a divorce, well separating. And my mom is a stay at home mom who has not had a job in the last 11 years. Her soon to be ex is basically leaving her out to dry and being selfish knowing that she has no means and no where to go, mind you they have been married for about 10 years. Then I come in. I moved with them and I am unemployed as well. I have a 4 year old and it has been really hard to find employment. My daughter's father and I are planning to get back together really soon, but now I feel as though I can not abandon my mom and siblings. I just don't know what to do? Truthfully I feel as though worst case scenario (though very possible) we will be living in with family or possibly in a shelter for women and children. My ex and I are planning to both move to a new state where I will start school and get a part time job and he will hold down the rest. There is no way we can afford to support my mom and siblings, I can't even support myself. We were really happy with our decision, but now I feel as though I just cannot leave my mom.:( She will do better with me there than without me. But where does that leave my growing family. I'm stuck in a place where I the question is do I take care of myself and my child, or do I let everything that could be go and stay to help my mom through these trying times. I feel selfish for even thinking about this.:o Please give me some insight on my position in this matter as I am a lost cause. :confused:

[Devorameira]

Why not talk openly and honestly to your mom and tell her exactly how you feel? It's possible that she has a plan to get a job and take care of herself, with the help of child support.

If she says she truly needs you to be there, then you should stick around to help her out for a while. Remember - Boyfriends come and go, but family is forever.

[answerme_tender]

Get your education while you can!! Remember you have a child to take care of yourself. Stop depending on others to take care of you financially. Your mom will need to get child support from ex and alimony while maybe taking some tech classes.
There are jobs out there if she needs something to just get her started with sometype of work history, now they may not be the most sought after, but cooks,janitors, and yes even nurses aide positions. Remember any job done well, is a job we can be proud of!---good luck