[Sowrdsman255]

Ok so my girlfriend lives 30minutes away from me and were both super busy and she wants to break up. I really don't and need some tips on how to try and keep us from not separating. Please I need help!

[Kitkat22]

You can't make her stay in a relationship if she wants out.

Let her go and move on.

[Sowrdsman255]

Thanks I don't know if it really helps me the only weird part is going to go from in a relationship to being friends (we've been close friends forever)

[Wondergirl]

Unfortunately, you can't keep it together if she wants to separate. I'm not even sure you can remain friends. How do you think that will be healthy for you? You'll always be remembering how things used to be and wanting them back again.

[Sowrdsman255]

Ya ik we broke up =/ but we're 14 so you it won't matter

[Sowrdsman255]

Once one of my "Friends" texted my girlfriend from my phone and asked her If she was a hermafrodite. Well this completely pissed her off. And still after half a year this "Friend" keeps telling her that it was me and not him. I need some help to get him to stop please.

[martinizing2]

If you would answer a question or two it will help.

How old are you?

Do you still hang around with your "friend" who caused the trouble?

Is she still your girlfriend , or did this cause you to break up?

How soon did you find out about it, what did you do then?

[Sowrdsman255]

I don't really hang around this "friend" anymore.
I'm 14.
It didn't cause a break up we r still go back and forth because of thing going on like school.
I found out about it 5 minutes later and I told her it was this "friend" and she believed me only because she had met him before and knows he can be a jerk.

[Sowrdsman255]

Ok so me and this girl have been friends since we were really little. For a while we had lost contact and a year ago we got back in touch and starte dating. We dated at the beginning of the year and became friends with benefits all summer. After about 4monthes we started dateing again and broke up because of school, and after school activities. The first time it was her idea to be friends with benefits and I want to know if it's really OK to be that at 14? Even now after we broke up she still wants to go to the fair and the fireworks with me. I guess I'm really just wondering if we should do that or not.

[gingerbill]

Do you mean "friends with benefits" as in having sex. If so, absolutely NOT is it OK. You are far too young and its against the law.

[ScottGem]

Agreed. You are too young to be having sex. Sex is not a recreational sport. Sex is is something shared between two people who have a deep and committed relationship. And no one should engage in sexual intercourse until they are financially, physically and emotional prepared to have a child.

I would say its OK to to go to the fair with this girl, at your age, hanging out like that is fine. But I would be more inclined to stay away from her. She is promiscuous and that is dangerous.

[redhed35]

Your 14 she's 14,the straight answer is NO.

Factor in the mental and emotional trauma this will have on both of you.

If you think 'trauma' is over the top,how about if she gets pregnant? Std's? Your parents finding out,her parents finding out.

Stay away from sex until your older wiser and more able to deal with the consequences.

[talaniman]

I don't think you mean friends with benefits as that applies to having sex with no commitment, and 14 year olds don't need to be playing with sex, no way, no how.

If you are talking about dating as friends with no strings attached, now that's a different thing, and okay as long as its cool with the parents.

[asking]

Once one of my "Friends" texted my girlfriend from my phone and asked her If she was a hermafrodite. Well this completely pissed her off. And still after half a year this "Friend" keeps telling her that it was me and not him. I need some help to get him to stop please.

If it was you and you knew what a hermaphrodite was, you would not have to ask. Therefore it wasn't you or else none of you knows what a hermaphrodite is, which is what I'm beginning to suspect... Too much drama here. Since she has broken up with you anyway, I would stop worrying about this. Find a better friend, too.

[Kitkat22]

Is it OK to be friends with benefits at 14?

No.. it isn't.

[Sowrdsman255]

No! Not like that!

[Fr_Chuck]

Please understand your wording, friends with benefits are two people who merely have sex for the sake of having sex. They are friends but not dating.

[Sowrdsman255]

Tos people! No having sex! Just like kissing!

[talaniman]

Darn it, kissing is for your girlfriend, not your friend, what's wrong with you?

[Sowrdsman255]

I mean. God people! Not having sex! Just kissing!