[backwoods]

Why is my kid touching other kids I real have a problem my boy 5 is experimenting with girls and boys I real get uncomfortable about this because I had this done to me when I was a kid by a girl and a boy and I still think it messes me up some. But I really don’t like to hear my kid is doing this I really have no idea how to talk to him about it because he just dose it again after our talk about inappropriate touch. How can I get it in his head with out making it in to a big deal and messing him up for life ?

[JudyKayTee]

How old are the kids he's experimenting with and where is this happening? Is he being led by older kids?

If you haven't made an impression on him have you asked his school if they have someone on staff who can help you?

Is this obsessive behavior (does it happen a lot)? Do you know if an adult has abused him?

[backwoods]

It has been his cousin who is 6 and his little cousin who is three.
I really don’t think any one has touched him I don’t let him stay with any one I don’t know and he was not in day care I am a stay at home mom but since he started school three years ago I have seen him get more and more curious about the human body and I have asked him and he said he just came up with the idea I really think he did because he is supper smart and he is supper curious.

[JudyKayTee]

It's super, not supper, and this is not the stuff that super smart kids do.

I would speak to a professional about his behavior, perhaps your family doctor. I can see this happening, you talking to him, the behavior stopping but if you look through other threads parents have become very upset when older children such as your son have put their hands on 3-year olds.

Dangerous and you could be in legal trouble.

Time to get help if you don't know what to do.

[Jake2008]

This is one of those situations that it is important that you take seriously.

It is good that you are recognizing that his behaviour is worrysome, and that your efforts have not stopped the behaviour. You are doing the right thing in asking questions, and getting opinions.

You haven't provided detail as to how often this happens, or if it involves only specific children (do you have other children in your home that you babysit?), or how long this has gone on. Does he hide the behaviour, does he understand you when you tell him to stop the behaviour, and what consequences have you given him to discourage the behaviour.

If you have covered as many bases as you can, and still he persists, I would encourage you to take him to your family doctor first. Explain everything you have said here, and ask what can be done to assist you in dealing with this.

I totally agree with Judy in that should his 3 year old cousin, or his 6 year old cousin tell their parents that 'Johnny touched my pp', or otherwise indicate they have been sexually touched, while in your care, you could be in a heap of trouble. I know that if one of mine were to say something to that effect, I would expect answers as to why you knew he was doing this, and didn't do enough to stop it.

While it may be difficult, it is far better to deal with this now, then risk doing nothing and having teachers, who are obligated by law, to report this to the local authorities, should the behaviour carry over into the school environment.