[jacklyndiede]

Okay I am 20 years old and I already have a 3 year old, will in July I had a one night stand and I was drunk and the condom broke, I have not seen him sent and I don't even remember his name age or where he lives or came from.. well I found out I few weeks ago I am preganat 10 weeks now, well I have two good friends that are married and I have known them for a long while, and they can not have kids and they have been looking around and getting information on adoption. And I was thinking since I was thinking about giving up my baby when it is born because sadly I cannot give the baby what it needs to live a healthy, loving life... so I sat down and talked to my friends about what is going on and ask if they would like to adoption the baby when it is born. I know they can love and take care of the baby and be very good as a mother and father I was just woundering how do we go about it? I know it's the right thing to do, I just don't know how to do it? So how do I give away my rights to them? So they can adopt the baby?

[cdad]

You will need to get a lawyer for this and make an attempt to find the father. Usually posted in the legal section of the newspaper. You can grant guardianship as temporary to your friends when the baby is born and proceed with the adoption. But if the father is found and wants the child then he will apply for custody.

[ScottGem]

I very slightly disagree with Califdad. THEY should get the attorney.

[Fr_Chuck]

Agreed, you will need an attorney, you will have to sign over your rights though the court to allow the adoption. Depending on the rules of the local court, an attempt to find the bio father will have to be done, including possible posting in legal section of an approved publication locally.

Normally the parents who wish to adopt would be paying the legal fees. attorney, court and more

[Synnen]

PLEASE get counseling as well. Giving your child to your friends could be a lot harder than you think--and could cause the end of your friendship as well.

You need to understand everything that you are giving up BEFORE you sign away your parental rights. You also need to sit down as a group and try to figure out how you will handle everything. I'd also recommend counseling as a group with a counselor that specializes in adoption.

10 weeks isn't very far along. Don't jump to any final decisions yet. It's not that I don't commend you for doing what you feel is right for the child--I do! It's a tough choice, and only the strongest women can make it. HOWEVER--most people don't understand the emotional mess it will make you. Understanding the emotional side of things will make it a lot easier for everyone involved, and could save you years of feeling bad. I don't regret choosing adoption, but it still hurts sometimes and I still see a counselor on an occasional basis. I doubt I'd have changed my mind by seeing one BEFORE signing the paperwork, but it might have helped me a LOT to see a counselor while I was pregnant.