[momofateengirl]

My 15yr old daugter lost her virginity in June to a boy that she like for 6 months. Than due to fact that his family lost their house, he move to the west coast (we live on the east coast) she never would have told us about her virginity. Than in July if it wasn't for her 23 yr old brother catching her outside of the home after midnight with a different boy. She claimed nothing happened Which was a lye!! My question is what to do if your teenage daughter is having casual sex? Beside birth control pills/ protection from std's

[cdad]

What does she say when you talk to her? How old are the boys she is dating?

[momofateengirl]

[QUOTE=momofateengirl;2500341]My 15yr old daugter lost her virginity in June to a boy that she like for 6 months. Than due to fact that his family lost their house, he move to the west coast (we live on the east coast) she never would have told us about her virginity. Than in July if it wasn't for her 23 yr old brother catching her outside of the home after midnight with a different boy. She claimed nothing happened Which was a lye!! My question is what to do if your teenage daughter is having casual sex? Beside birth control pills/ protection from std's the boys are 15 and 16

[cdad]

Have you grounded her or made her do more chores or punished her for what's going on? What was her response when you spoke to her about her behavior ? At 15 she could get pregnant and then it's a whole other story going on here.

[Jake2008]

You need to keep closer tabs on your 15 year old.

You can't stop her from having sex, but you can make sure she is protected for one thing. Please get her to a Doctor and have her checked for STDs, and pregnancy. Make sure you don't leave the office without birth control pills.

Then, you need to talk to her. Not lecture her, or scorn or ridicule her or argue with her. But talk to her.

Make sure the two of you are on the same page, and able to discuss the obvious risks she is taking. Learn about who her friends are, where she goes, who she is with, how she's getting home, and what else she may be doing if you can.

Have her friends changed, or has she dropped her normal friends, for new ones. Who are the guys she's having sex with- are they older than her? How did she meet them, and why does she trust them. I'm hoping none of this has happened with men she may have met online.

I think if you are surprised that she is sexually active, you probably didn't see it coming, but you can make sure you set some boundaries, and expectations with her, now. At the very least you need to educate her on the consequences of having sex so young, as well as the very real risks of diseases and pregnancy.