[Fixer12]

So in the next week I am moving in with my best friend who has rented a house. He and his girlfriend have a room, then we have another roommate who has his own room, and then I will have my own as well.

The problem is that I recently got a new TV from my parents for doing well this last two semesters in school. It was a gift. I had told my friend a long time ago when my parents were thinking of giving it to me that we could put it in the living room. Lately since my parents have given it to me, I have had it in my own room.

When I move up I'd really like to put it in my room. My roommate is going to be upset with me, since I already told him earlier that I would.

Today we had texted and talked about it, and he was getting mad that I didn't want to. I finally agreed that I would put it in the living room for everyone to share until I have to argue over it, or someone mistreats it.

This is not what I want. I have a problem standing up for myself and making the choice that I want to put it in my room. I want to tell him this, but I feel bad after today I had just said I would try it. I don't want to share my stuff anymore after doing it for the last 3 years. He will be mad at me, and I don't want to start another roommate relationship on a bad start especially since it is my best friend. What should I do? How should I say it? Thanks

[Aurora_Bell]

Well it is your TV, and even if yous aid you would share it, it's yours and you have that right to change your mind.

Your roommate/friend wouldn't be much of a friend to be so petty over a t.v. If he gets mad, explain that it's not every day that someone buys a t.v for you, and you want to make sure it's kept safe, and you don't want to feel obligated into not watching t.v if someone was watching something you did not.

Ask him if he would be willing to share his new electronics with the house.

[Fixer12]

Thank you for replying.

I do agree with what you are saying. In reality it sounds so simple and stupid of something to even fight over. I have always been one to take care of my things. Also I try and be friendly and share everything else that I am bringing to the house.

He also has a TV in his room right now, and wants me to share mine, but wants to keep him and his girlfriends in their room. I feel if he wants to share the TV so badly he can use his.

Overall I know it's not a large deal, I have just had so many bad roommate problems in the past with them using my stuff, or mistreating it, or I have to always ask to use my own stuff. I just don't want to do that this time.

Thank you Aurora :)

[redhed35]

You could always say,that we all have to live together and share the same space,but its also important that you each can close the door and be on your own.

He is being an idiot over the TV,its yours,what's he putting into the common space for everyone to share.

You could always say,that yo uwould like to keep the TV in your room,but would be willing to chip in for a common one for everyone.

That way,its everyone's responsibility.

It sounds like your being bullied a little,are you sure about moving in with them?

[Fixer12]

Yea, I had brought that up to him as a suggestion about us all chipping in to get a TV for everyone to share. He said that he has no money.

He has been a best friend of mine for about 10 years almost. So I am pretty sure that everything will work out OK, I am paying him rent so it's hard because he wants everything his way. I don't think he realizes that everyone pays the same rent everyone gets the same benefits.

I told him last night that I wanted to keep it in my room for sure. He seemed pretty mad, but he said everything was OK.

I just feel like I am almost doing something wrong. I am going around today to see if I can find a used TV at Goodwill or something for them to use in the living room.

Thank you everyone for replying, it has helped me a lot.

[Aurora_Bell]

I understand the guilty feeling, you don't want to upset your friends, but it is your T.V, and since your roomie has his own TV, I don't see a problem in you keeping what's yours. I am sure he will get over it in time. It's VERY nice that you are looking for a used T.V, but totally unnecessary.