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tang923 · Aug 16, 2010, 02:56 AM

So I met this really nice girl through a mutual friend at a club last weekend. That day when we both left I walked her to the bus and she showed some interest so I got her number. I gave her a call yesterday and asked her for a movie. It went well but she said "we will see later on the week to confirm the day and time" etc. Do I still have a chance or is this a no? She was quick to add me on Facebook. She seems nice. Im asian and she's aussie if that's an issue? Im 20 and haven't been on a date for a while now... Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated... Thanks guys

redhed35 · Aug 16, 2010, 03:07 AM

She gave you her number and wants to check date and time for a movie.

I would say she is interested.

Take it easy.

Don't bombard her with phone calls.

Wait until mid week to arrange a time and date for the movie.

tang923 · Aug 16, 2010, 03:11 AM

Thanks for your quick reply, Redhed35. So should I be more prepared like not making a time on the spot or exactly when a movie starts?

redhed35 · Aug 16, 2010, 03:39 AM

At least have the cinema listings at hand.

Take it easy,no pressure.

tang923 · Aug 16, 2010, 04:31 AM

Ok, what should I do in the mean time? I know I shouldn't call her, id leave that later. Should I text or send messages on Facebook? If I message her via Facebook would she think that I'm cheap? Lol so difficult!

I wish · Aug 16, 2010, 06:46 AM

Call her on Wednesday to see if she's free for Friday/Saturday. Maybe she's busy during the week with her. Give her 2 days to see if she gets back to you before you call her again to confirm a date this week.

However, I suggest that since you haven't even gone on a date with her yet, you shouldn't be going to a movie. When you're at the movies, you can't even speak to each other. I suggest that you meet up for coffee, lunch or dinner, so that you have an environment that allows you to have a conversation and get to know each other better.

kctiger · Aug 16, 2010, 06:59 AM

Relax... first! Call her like IWish said then take her to dinner/lunch and then a movie. Gives you two time to talk and get to know each other, then a nice movie to enjoy. Seems like a winner to me.

tang923 · Aug 16, 2010, 07:23 AM

Thanks guys really appreciate the replies. My originally plan was movie then dinner so can have some popcorn and stuff like that so we don't get filled up. I'd be leaving things on Wednesday before I contact her again, I guess.

talaniman · Aug 16, 2010, 07:32 AM

Relax guy its only a date. Not a wedding. Go slow, and see what develops, no reason to get carried away on the social networks, or texts. You have her phone number, use it wisely, and plan a movie as she suggested, at the appointed time.

Have a good time, and make sure she does too. Stay away from anything formal, and keep a first date casual, as fun is the point, to see how you click.

tang923 · Aug 18, 2010, 02:22 AM

Ok guys I gave her a call today and we are going to dinner and a movie. Although she has a club to attend afterwards. It's the one where I met her. Should I go with her? Not really type of atmosphere though.

redhed35 · Aug 18, 2010, 02:35 AM

If she has made plans for later,leave it at the end of the date unless she invites you.

In saying that,if you keep the date light easy and fun,you will stay on her mind,give her a chance to talk about you with her friends and say what a great guy and date your were.

No need to crowd her.

tang923 · Aug 18, 2010, 02:42 AM

Thanks will do.

tang923 · Aug 20, 2010, 06:52 PM

Well she sent me a text cancelling the date... but she will be at a the place where I met her last time... should I go? She said she will "be there", does this mean she wants me to be there as well?

talaniman · Aug 20, 2010, 07:36 PM

Only one way to find out.

tang923 · Aug 23, 2010, 04:18 AM

Ok folks, just some update on what happened on Saturday.

She sent me a text message canceling the date but however was still keen on seeing me at the place where I met her. So we went to the same club. This turned out to be a disaster. For the entire night she was just having fun on her own and completely ignoring me. Too be honest, I was a little pissed off about that coming all the way to the city just for her at a late night on a Saturday so I bite the bullet and confronted her asking her why. She said "you have been starring at me for the entire time, i need some SPACE!" after that, I had a few drinks and left the place...

Tonight, she sent me a message apologizing which I did in return as well, she gets worked up when people follow her around.

Is this the end? Do I have another go with this girl or move on?

talaniman · Aug 23, 2010, 05:31 AM

Doesn't matter, because as far as I was concerned I wouldn't be worried about her. Nice apology, but give it a lot of thought before you consider sticking your nose up her butt.

Chevy36 · Aug 24, 2010, 11:46 AM

Originally Posted by redhed35

she gave you her number and wants to check date and time for a movie.

i would say she is interested.

take it easy.

dont bombard her with phone calls.

wait untill mid week to arrange a time and date for the movie.

I was going to answer this but this is word for word what I was going to say. Good luck with her...

I wish · Aug 24, 2010, 12:01 PM

If you want to get to know her, then stuck with one-on-one settings. Otherwise, it's difficult to talk to each other. That was a nice apology, but we don't know if she's just relieving her guilt or she actually cares about your feelings.

There's only really one way to find out. Ask her out again, but just be prepared for another rejection as we're not sure how she really feels about you.