[goodkarma_1]

Ive been seeing a guy for 5 weeks that I'm interested in and I defiantly felt the feelings were mutual... until lately. Things moved rather quickly between us over the weeks. We've been spending the weekends together (camping, lake trips etc) with his friends and other couples he's introduced me too which made me think that he was really into to me otherwise he wouldn't take me around them. Other than seeing each other on the weekends we rarely saw each other during the weekdays - perhaps because we both work 8 hr days and I live 20 min away? I don't know. Anyway, this past weekend we stayed in a cabin where I met a new group of his friends and now this week I have dramatically see a difference in communication. He never was a talker on the phone (at least with me) he would text me things like 'have a good day' or thinking of you' etc. These texts are minimal now and if I text him he takes 1-2 hours to respond! Its so frustrating. My gut is telling me that he lost interest or is seeing someone else. Am I over analyzing this being we are still very new? I'm not the type to bug anyone and he definitely knows that I was interested so that not a question. I reluctant to expressing how I feel because I don't want to come across as a weirdo... Should I just leave it alone and see what he does?

[martinizing2]

You may be over-worrying for a 5 week relationship.

Relax and go with the flow.

Don't rush or be pushy, things are just getting started.

[Jake2008]

Why are you making yourself so available and why are you so predictable.

I think you've already said it, and that to back off, and see what happens.

Before you get in too deep, and leave so much of your life open to disappointment, take charge!

If he's interested, let him text. If he does, and asks you away for the weekend again, simply tell him that you're sorry, but you have other plans. Ask him to give you a shout next week if he wants to get together.

By being so available, why should he make any effort at all.

The relatioship is only five weeks old, and it is part-time at best. Already you are wondering if he's losing interest and/or has another girl on the side. Far too soon to start taking this relationship to the bank and investing it.

Sit back, don't allow him to take up so much of your time, demand a little respect and consideration, and if he's worthy, he will provide it.

[Homegirl 50]

You have already given too much in such a short amount of time.
Step back. Don't text or call him. If he wants to talk to you he will call or text.
If he doesn't, you've learned a lesson.

[Devorameira]

Nobody knows what he's thinking or doing on the side.

Step back and let him make some of the moves. Don't initiate a text or call at all for a while. Wait for him to get in touch with you.

You said it all when you said that he definitely knows that you're interested. Maybe you've come across as too interested or needy. Maybe if you seemed a little more neutral or uninterested he'd start to step up his game.

[goodkarma_1]

Quick update because I need advice ***:

So he asked if I wanted to go out to dinner last night and this is the first time he has flaked on me. I went about my day and thought he wouldve text me when/where to meet up, well I didn't hear from him at all. I didn't bother to text him asking what's the deal since he was the one to invite. Total bs. Anyway, he texts me this morning aplogizing for flaking and asks if he can make it up to me. I replied and said "no worries, but that I would be busy with work this week and maybe next time" He says ok- and apologizes again. I know not to stand for this kind of crap so I took everyone's advice and made myself unavailable. By doing this (a guys opinion would be great) does if come across that I am bitter angry b****? Or standing up for myself? I do hope he comes around but I guess if he doesn't I got my answer...

[Homegirl 50]

You're standing up for yourself.
If he wants to make it up to you, he'll call again.

[goodkarma_1]

Thanks. I know I'm looking too deeply into this... I guess Im just fed up how men can be hot and cold. I've been through this before. So last night I was thinking and putting myself if his shoes... maybe I came off bitter because people do have the right to change their mind and not say anything. Heck Ive done it (but I have to say I do that with men that I don't really care for) :| Should I have given him a chance being that this was the first time he blew me off like that? He did say that he would make it up to me. I know, I know perhaps I am making excuses and if someone was really into me they wouldn't do that. Just trying to give people a benefit of a doubt and I can't help but feel guilty like I blew it now. Or did I do the right thing. I know he knows I am irritated and being that we are new I doubt he'll contact again. He probably feels dumb now. Dating is exhausting!

[QLP]

People have a right to change their mind or other things come up but inviting you out and then not calling to either confirm or postpone is downright rude.

You didn't give him an earful you just made it plain that you aren't sitting around all week at his beck and call. This is a good thing. You have given him a chance by saying,'maybe next time.' Now the ball is in his court. Leave it there and wait and see. Either he will up his game or he wasn't worth the effort on your side anyway.

[Homegirl 50]

You know you treat people the way you want to be treated.
I would never bail out on someone and not at least call and cancel. If someone did that to me, it would tell me the person is rude and I am of no importance. That is what you have done as well so it should tell you something.

[goodkarma_1]

Thanks homegirl and qlp - I needed that reassurance. I just keep telling myself that he wasn't that into it as I was. Ugh looking back I feel like a fool because he probably sensed that I was really into him... I felt he was too but now he's had a change of heart. Oh well what can I do. Sorry I keep posting, I just don't have anyone that I would share these feelings with. I appreciate it!

[Homegirl 50]

Well we are when you need us.

[I wish]

If he said that he will make it up to you, then let him do it. The ball is on his side of the court right now anyway. Just do your own thing and live your own life. Your life doesn't revolve around him.

You're not being bitter, you're being realistic. As the others have said, treat others the way you want to be treated.