[monk07311]

My boyfriend of 6years all of the sudden started asking me all these weird questions and inferring that I am cheating on him. I have tried telling him that I am not cheating and that I would never do anything to hurt him but its like he wants to be mean to me or start a fight with me. We also have a 11month old son who I don't want thinking that he can talk to me the way his dad does. What should I do??

[DoulaLC]

Has anything changed recently? Do you have a new job... some new friends? Are you online or on any social networks, such as Facebook, frequently? Has the time you spend together changed?

Anything at all that you can think of that might make him concerned? What does he say that he thinks is going on? He must have given you some indication of why he feels this way.

If you can think of nothing whatsoever that has changed or that can cause him to worry, then has anything changed for him recently? New job... online more often, working later, etc.

Unfortunately, where I am going with this is could there be a possibility that he has strayed or thought about it? Sometimes people will feel guilty and that will be put onto someone else... actually accusing them of the same thing.

I think you need to find someone to watch your son, and the two of you have a heart to heart talk to get to the root of what is going on.

[talaniman]

You kick his disrespectful arse out, and don't put up with his bad behavior. What he is doing is a tactic/excuse to break up with you, and blame you for it.

Maybe he is the cheater here.

[vanheart]

Sounds insecure & fishy. Total disrespect.

If you are true & he chooses to be suspicious, then he needs to deal with that.

Good relationships are built on mutual trust among many other things.

Either resolve this with him, or think about an exit strategy.

No one deserves the third degree for no reason. If he can't trust you, then not worth continuing.

[Homegirl 50]

Maybe he is trying to get you so mad you will leave. He's probably cheating and does not have the guts to at least be honest about.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes normally unless something has happened, has someone PM or emailed him and said you were ?

Has your schedule changed ? Has something changed ?

And often yes men will try and blame the women for things they are doing.

[vanheart]

When my ex dumped me, I remember telling her that I didn't want to think that there was someone else in her bed.

I was a mess.

She got enraged. Like I never heard before.

Said to me, "How dare you disrespect me", Then "you will have someone too, again"

All as she choose to do it over the phone after 5 years.

Talk about disrespect. Nice one, huh?

What to they say? Hindsight is 20-20...