[Camposhe]

Both my fiancée and I are 30 years old and have been together 3 years. The last 2 years it has been off and on since I caught him cheating on me. We became engaged on Easter Sunday 2010. About a month later I became pregnant(unplanned). I am 11 weeks today. I have been sleeping in the guest room for about 1 month since his smell makes me sick. I have been vomitting daily. Mr. Dr. told me it's normal to have intensified smell and I told him this. Well last night he told me that he "doesnt want to live like this." He and I are over and that he will be there for the baby but wants nothing to do with me. Of course I became angry but then needy. I asked him why did you propose? He said, "I was hoping it would make our relationship better but obviously it hasn't. I don't care anymore. I just want to be alone. I'm done with you and I'm sorry you got pregnant. Your not fun--I like going out to clubs and with friends and you just always want to be home." I live with him so now I am in a total panic because I never realized I could be alone in this pregnancy plus now I need to move out. Do you think he will change his mind? Should I stay in our house and just give him space? I called my dad and told him what happened and he was like you need to get the hell out of there and have an abortion. Obviously he does not love you nor respect you. Then I called my mom(parents divorced 5 years ago) and she said stay there he will come around but don't kiss his a**. If he doesn't come around you can do this on your own. I'm so confused and SCARED!

[DoulaLC]

First you'll need to give careful thought to whether you want to have this baby. Don't make your decision on whether you think he will be around to help or not since that is never a guarantee. Can you, and do you want to, do it on your own? If not, would adoption be an alternative for you?
If you decide you want to have the baby, have that be your focus for now. Surround yourself with family and friends who will help you and be supportive. Many women have babies on their own and do a fine job of it.

Might he come around? Sure, some guys, and it doesn't matter their age, get scared of the commitment and changes that take place when a baby is in the near future. Or he may very well have told you the truth... he also knew the two of you were having some difficulties, thought proposing would make it better, and now finds that wasn't the case. He wants to be on his own and enjoy all that entails. No doubt hurts, but at least he was honest.

Might he have reason to feel you put his needs on the back burning during the last several weeks? If so, maybe acknowledging that and talking about could help. Could something be changed in regard to how he smells? Is it a specific aftershave... body odor... something he eats frequently?

Maybe the engagement came too soon if the previous two years had been off and on. Trying to make a relationship better by adding the prospect of a more serious commitment such as marriage usually doesn't work. You need the serious commitment and strong foundation first.

Personally, I'd find another place to stay and give him the space he says he wants. He might reflect on all that has happened and change his mind. You'll then have to decide whether you can get passed what was said before and if you want to try and make it work.
Or... he might find he likes it better without the constant reminder of the commitment he now faces.

Either way you will be able to step back, take some time, and look at what you want.

[lickemlolly]

I'm not an avid believer of abortions but it's always the woman's choice but you should concentrate on you right now... start trying to get things in order for you and this new life... I'm not going to preach to you about why you shouldn't have an abortion but remember there are people in this world that can't have children... as far as him coming around... he might... but do you really want him to... after all he said I'm sorry you're pregnant which is a real douche bag thing to say... now staying in the house... that's a personal preference... if you need time to get on your feet and what not then it's up to you... but know if he doesn't come around it's going to be awkward..

[talaniman]

I really feel for you after what your parents said, and don't seem to want to support you. That's what you need right now as no one knows if he will be there or NOT. Doesn't seem like it.

I would give the emotional dust time to settle, and talk with your folks again, just in case he Doesn't come through for you.

[positiveparent]

I don't really agree with abortion either that baby didn't ask to be conceived and to get rid of it because there's a hiccup in the relationship is not really fair, but if its what you want then that's your choice, however you didn't need to get pregnant, but you did, so that little baby has a life, unless you don't allow it to go that far.
Im sure he will come around or change his mind, even if you don't get back with him, he will always be that babies dad.

Move out or something let him alone and he may find he wants you both. You wanted the baby until he ended it what's that's to do with the baby, he said hell support it. Its your choice but you can't undo it once its done. So think hard and think deeply. Good Luck..

[Kitkat22]

You will be a good mom. Foget the jerkweed and concentrate on the baby. As for your parents, they are not treating you well at all.