[Lee10]

I was best friends with a girl for ten years, we did everything togther. At first the friendship was great, she helped me through a tough times, a bad marriage and when my mother passed away. She was always there for me. I noticed she started to get angry with me for little things and always blamed me for them. Which I accepted the blame only because I knew if I didn't, she wouldn't talk to me for weeks.

If anyone knows me, they know I always try to keep the peace and do not like arguing. I'm not perect by any mean, either. She recently got married and has changed. She complained everyday about him and hate his children. I always told her she knew he had kids and she needed to accept them, they are only kids and they are going to try your patience. Recently, we were all at the beach, me, my friend and her husband and it was just us 3 still left in the water, my friend decided to get out of the water so it was just me and her husband left. We were just sitting in the water talking but he decided he was going to try to kiss me. I told him no, and he merely said I was only trying to see if you were a good friend.

I forgot to mention we all had been drinking all day. My best friend saw us in the water and she told us to separate, which I did, but he grabbed me again and asked me how long has it been since I have been with a guy and I told him to shut up and he tried again to kiss me. I told him No and to STOP it, he said I won't tell if you don't tell. I was in shock, I have been hanging out with them for 2 years and he never not once tried anything like this.

My friend got back in the water and said this sh_t won't ever happen again. I never said anything to her because I told her husband you better go get your girl. I was pissed at him and just didn't know what to do.. I thought about it all night and I was going to just tell her first thing in the morning. When I saw her in the morning, she asked me if anything happened, but before she let me answer she told me that if he tried anything with me or if I let anything happened she would never speak to me again. I lost my nerve and told her nothing happened. I didn't want to loose the friendship. I know, I am a horrible friend for not telling her and feel so guilty about that too. I really do. She told me the next day she say us f----ing in the water with her own eyes and I was nothing but a whore. She told me she was going to leave her husband because of me, now keep in mind I have told her nothing happened and her husband told her he was drunk and doesn't remember anything.

She told me if I was a good friend I should had got out of the water with her and never stayed in the water with her husband. Maybe she is right about this. I just never thought that this would ever happen. I have tried to email her and text her but she will not respond to me and I don't know what else to do. I never wanted to loose her friendship, because good friends are so hard to find. I know we can never be friends like we were and I could never be by myself with her husband anymore, but why does this hurt so bad to loose a friend. I know, I lost a lot of friends because of her because I always had to be with her and try to help her through her problems and she was never happy about anything. I know she has problems but I accepted those and want to be there for her. Why do I feel so guilty for something I didn't see coming? Why would she still stay with her man and not even talk to me anymore?

[redhed35]

That was quite a day you had.

You did nothing wrong and you have not lost a friend,you have lost a whole heap of trouble.

Instead of being upset you should be leaping with joy!

No matter what you say,she may not believe you,and this has probably happened before,drunk or not he had the where with all to continue trying it on.

He was not drunk enough to fall over or drown,he know what he was doing,he just did not care.

The marriage had problems before this incident,not your fault.

Try and move on from this,make new friends or try and connect with old ones.

This was not your fault.

[Cat1864]

Red is correct. This is not your fault. This is not a friend. She is using you as an emotional punching bag and has you thanking her for it.

She can't use her husband as an excuse for her bad behavior because this has gone on a lot longer than her marriage. Stop putting up with it. She was a good friend once a long time ago. She isn't now. That happens sometimes as we grow up. Our relationships change and there can come a time we have to accept that the people involved are not as close as they once were.

Her husband has no excuse for his behavior either. Though, it was probably more directed at getting a rise out his wife than actually hitting on you. Leave them to sort out their issues.

Make new friends who share your values and who value true friendship. Do not allow anyone, no matter what they did for you in the past, to emotionally use you like a punching bag. I doubt you would put up with it from a boyfriend so why put up with it from her?

[jmjoseph]

Maybe she isn't as good of a friend as you think.

You have no reason to be ashamed. You did the right thing by telling him no. BUT, you should have told the "friend" what her husband did. Drunk or not, she deserves to know what kind of man he really is.

If she doesn't understand, then so what? She sounds like more trouble than she's worth anyway.

Life goes on.

Good luck.

[Shadowburn]

Good riddance of such a friend and her dear husband. I think you should thank your lucky stars that now you have a chance to end her emotional abuse and end this so called friendship which is very one sided and not reciprocated.

Forget about both of them and their drama. Good luck.

[positiveparent]

I agree she wasnt really your friend you may have been hers but shes not yours, I know it hurts to lose someone we consider to be a friend but really with this girl for a friend who needs enemies. Leave her to wallow in her own poison you dont need the drama and lies anyway.

[Kitkat22]

Too much drama. Leave them alone and as Red told you, you did nothing wrong.

Stay away from them.

[lickemlolly]

I don't think you are at fault here... I think she is emotional because she knows her husband is a lie and a cheat and she wants someone to point fingers at and if she was any kind of true friend she wouldn't be doing that

[hunnypooh97]

U did nothing wrong... they are nothing but trouble... its better to stay away from them..

[talaniman]

It hurts because you tried to be a good friend, but I think you would have better luck, with a better friend. Put this behind you, and in time you will make friends that appreciate you the way you appreciate them.