[cowgrl1up]

I am 30, married for 8 yrs. I have always known that I am bisexual.
Over the last year I can not stop thinking about women! I go on porn sites just to see them! When I masterbate I am thinking of women!
I found a "friend" on Craigslist to have some adult fun with. We met and had a drink, she has called and text me several times but I can't get the nerve up to have sex with her!
I am even having sex dreams about the handyman!
What's Wrong With Me??

[DoulaLC]

How's your relationship with your husband been? Are you close? Feel he is emotionally as well as physically there for you?

I don't know your views on extramarital affairs, but if it is not something that would be OK in your relationship, ditch the "friend" from Craigslist. Stop all contact before it goes too far and you have even more concerns to contend with.

Talk to your husband about having some more adult fun with him. Find ways to reconnect, liven things up, just have more fun together, if you feel that area has been lacking in your relationship.

Any changes in other behavior in the last year? Any medications started or changed? Under more stress than normal? Financial issues? Work concerns? Health or job concerns with husband? Any life changes for either of you or immediate family? Is the heightened interest in sex new? You said you have known you are bisexual, but have you actually had a female partner before? I am guessing your husband knows that you are bisexual? Have you talked to him about any of it?

If this is becoming all consuming, and you don't feel you can get a handle on things and make some changes, you may want to speak to your doctor and have some things checked out.

[BananaPie]

Whats Wrong With Me???

I wouldn't automatically assume that there is something wrong with you simply because there's a change in your sexual appetites. It happens.

It may be a good idea to discuss all this with your husband, and see what he thinks. If he's an open-minded and understanding person, I am sure he will be able to help you, and I do think it would be ideal for the both of you to figure things out together. Making him feel 'included' is a good way to establish a healthy rapport and good communication.

And of course, you do not have to settle for one or the other. If you really want a female partner, see if your husband is agreeable to working something out that would allow you or both you and your husband a little company in the bedroom.