[marygrace15]

I am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 16 turning 17 and he is not a virgin but I am. We tried to have sex but it wouldn't go in because he is too big and I'm too tight he says. What do we do to help get his penis in easier? Also he said he doesn't want to wear a condom this next time we try but he will pull out when he cums and put on a condom. Is this a bad idea? HELP PLEASE!

[marygrace15]

I haven't had sex yet but were trying and I was wondering if I have to be on birth control after having sex?

[ISneezeFunny]

... This is a pretty bad idea. Not just "pretty bad" but REALLY bad.

If you have to ask whether this is a bad idea... I wouldn't have sex.

[ISneezeFunny]

... AFTER having sex?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ml#post2455096

... listen, if you don't know the answers to these questions yourself, then I suggest you don't have sex. But in case you don't follow advice...

USE CONDOMS. ALWAYS.

... BEFORE THE ACTUAL ACT OF SEX.

[unluckynut]

OMG! Are kidding me. Read what you wrote common sense tells you that there is nothing right about this. As you probably been told before it only takes once to get pregnant, so ALWAYS use a condom no matter what your boyfriend tells you. He won't be carrying a baby for 9 months, and going through labor for who knows how many hours of pain. You will be the one with the baby for the next at least 18 years. So protect yourself, and if he don't like it tell him to use his hand, that way you are safe. 15 is really young so be careful you have the rest of you life too think about. And besides we didn't even hit on diseases. No boy is worth you throwing the rest of your life away. If he really really cared he would want to protect you too. Best wishes!

[martinizing2]

I am not sure due to your ages if I should be answering at all.

I will say any sex should be protected and 15 is too young.

You need to rethink having sex at all.

[Alty]

I'm banging my head on my desk repeatedly.

Do you know how babies are made? Do you have any idea how sex works? It's not just a moment of stupid passion and then think about the consequences later.

Condom! Always! If he doesn't want to wear one, don't have sex with him.

Even with a condom there's a chance of pregnancy. Want the whole truth? You could be on the pill, use a condom, and he could pull out and you could still get pregnant.

Yes, I'm being harsh, because seriously, if you don't know what you're doing, don't do it! You're too young! This is proof!

Why not wait until you actually know how your body works, and how sex works, and what can happen if you have sex. This decision could change your entire life, not just because you'll be losing your V-card, but because you could become a mom, or get a disease.

Condom, at the very least, use a condom.

[Aurora_Bell]

Definitely too young to be giving sex advice. And it's NEVER a good idea to have un protected sex. Has he been tested for STD's? Because if he is willing to have un protected sex with you, and is not a virgin, than has he used protection with the other girl(s) he had sex with?

I know you are probably going to have sex anyway, even though you should really wait, get yourself on the pill, and have a serious discussion with him about using a condom.

Who wants to be a 15 year old mom?

[Aurora_Bell]

I replied on the other thread, but this has bad idea written all over it. ALWAYS use protection. It only takes once to get pregnant or get an STD. The pull out method DOES NOT WORK!!

You need to use protection. The more the better. Get on the pill and use a condom!

[martinizing2]

If you insist on having sex ALWAYS USE A CONDOM.

But at 15 and 16 years old you are too young to jump into life changing and maybe life threating behavior!
Give this more thought before you succumb to a moments passion and take the chance of ruining your life.

[hheath541]

I'm trying to figure out what she meant by 'trying.' you either are or are not having sex, there's no 'trying' about it.

[martinizing2]

I'm trying to figure out what she meant by 'trying.' you either are or are not having sex, there's no 'trying' about it.

She has another post ISsneezefunny posted the link. It will be all too clear.

[failurebidesign]

Unprotected sex is both dangerous and irresponsible, but when you take your age into consideration, are you sure you're ready? I'm 16 and I'm still not ready emotionally! Sometimes you have to think about what's best for you and put that before the person you love. But in the end, if you choose to have sex, you should always use protection. If you don't you could end up with an unwanted pregnancy, and the guilt or depression from an abortion, or even being a teenage mother. I know several teen moms, and only one of them is still with the father. Its an extremely risky. Ready to gamble your future?

[J_9]

is this a bad idea?

Of course it's not a bad idea if you want to become a PARENT.

You are a child, stop playing adult games until you are prepared to deal with the consequences.

[cdad]

Id recommend this thread be closed because assisting illegal acts is against AMHD rules. And 15 is below the age of consent.

[cdad]

People. She's 15 according to her own words. Its illegal. No Sex.

[Alty]

People. Shes 15 according to her own words. Its illegal. No Sex.

Yes, and none of us are saying that she should have sex. In fact, we're all against it. The fact is, against it or not, illegal or not, kids do what they want, because they don't have the sense God gave a goat, and they won't listen to us, because they know everything.

Can we stop her from doing this? No. I wish we could, but I'm being realistic. So, if I can't stop her, I can at least give her advice to protect herself as much as she can.

It's a scary world. Children are having sex. Children are having children. More so now then ever, or so it seems.

I hope she waits. I hope she listens to us and keeps her legs crossed until she's older. The fact that she doesn't even have the first clue how her body works, or how birth control works, that's scary, because she's the norm.

We seem to be a society that believes that not informing kids about sex, about birth control, will make them abstain. That's not the truth. The truth is, they're doing it anyway, but they have no idea what the consequences are because they haven't been told.

So I say again, please don't have sex, you're too young, you have no idea how your body works, wait until you're older. But, if you're going to do it anyway, it's up to you to protect yourself, even though no form of birth control is 100% effective, using nothing is like playing Russian roulette with a loaded gun.

No sex is best, but if we can't talk sense into you, then safer sex, please.

[Aurora_Bell]

I don't think anyone here is assisting her. We are all discouraging her from having sex.

[ScottGem]

NO ONE should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are ready financially, emotionally and physically to have a child. Especially not unprotected sex! Ask your boyfriend if he will stand by you when you get pregnant? Ask him if he's prepared to be labeled a sex offender for life for statutory rape?

Please let us know you have reconsidered this foolishness and told him you are not ready.

[Enigma1999]

Hello Mary,

I really think this is a bad idea! I think you should enjoy being a 15 year old girl and have fun with school, friends, shopping, girl sleepovers, so on and so forth.

Save the making love for when you are older and understand it...

There will be plenty of time for that in the future.

If you were to get pregnant... OMG your life will change big time! You will most likely live with yor parents for a very long time, and odds are you will not finish school on time with your friends. Also, do you think this guy would help you out? You will watch all of your friends live the life that teens do while you are home with a baby.

Be smart about this! If this boy won't wait for you, and I mean at least until 18, then he is not worth your time... Make sense?