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ravgill · Jul 28, 2010, 07:03 AM

Hello..
I was in long distance relationship with my boyfriend from 1 yr

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Shadowburn · Jul 28, 2010, 07:24 AM

Your post was hard to read because of all this text talk (please do not use it, it's against the rules here). From what I actually could understand, you broke up 2 months ago, he kept calling you for awhile, you applied NC and now having second thoughts about it.

My answer to that is you shouldn't second guess yourself. If he lied to you and broke your trust, that you don't want him back with all his feelings and what's not. Two months after break up and NC you should be well on your way to healing, not sitting and waiting for him to really want you.

Good luck.

mudweiser · Jul 28, 2010, 07:34 AM

Originally Posted by ravgill

hello..
i was in long distance relationship wid my bf from 1 yr.our relationship was v.beautiful.means i neva thought that i'm so far away from my love coz he remained always in contact wid me on fone thru sms or cals.n we can't say it was attraction for a few time.1 yr long distance relationship can't be like fake..isn't it sir..?lik my frns says now that ur ex did flirt wid me.bt i say for 1 yr?y he'll do flirt?n i was clear wid him dat i was neva been physical

wid

him..bt the problm arises wen d question of our meet comes?we meet 4 -5 times in 2 months.bt den our plan to meet always neva come 2 success.n dat was the point of fight i did always wid my bf on dis issue.last 2 months from our breakup was passed out in fights etc.bt i neva eva thought in my dreams even that my so loving partner can leave me lik dis?last tim i had a fight wid him.i didn't respond for 1 week.den wen i called me after waiting his call,he stopped pikin ma fone calls n didn't respond.i started madly calling him n tried my best 2 say sorry if i was wrong 2 him.den atlast he piked ma fone n said that he has no future wid me n so many hurtful things i can't imagine.den after our breakup i came to kno that he lied me about his studys dat he is doin mba bt he was doin sum other degree.n lil bit lies.den i text him n abused him so badly coz he broke my trust n i said him that u broke my trust n i hate him n den i said him gud bye..den after doin all that, i applied NC rule for 2 months.n it is unbelievable that he called me 3 4 days back for 2-3 times but i didn't pick.actualy" i wana him 2 feel sorry 4 wat he did n wana self respect ...i wana realize him what he has lost...."
i expected that he will call me again n again.bt now 7 days have passed on.he didn't call me back.
now i'm worry that wiLL HE CALL ME BACK?
I SIMPLY DIDN'T PICKed d fone coz i want him back wid all his feelings n i wana make me sure that he truly wants me back coz last time he did unexpecd.i love him so much but now i dnt show it anymore 2 him n i'm totally disappeared frm his life..bt all d time my heart wants him...

If you can't handle something as simple as grammar and spelling, you can't handle a serious relationship.

Imabadman · Jul 28, 2010, 09:54 AM

I guess I don't understand why the admins don't delete scribbling like this?

ravgill · Jul 28, 2010, 10:21 AM

What is the relation of these grammar and spellings with the real life relations?
I know well the spellings and grammar.it was too long ,that's why I wrote like that.huh

I think that admin should not allow such people to give comments here.this site is for helping people in trouble but not to teach them the grammar... what a carp... :x

you should not interfere if you cannot understand.those who can understand my post should only rely.thanx

kctiger · Jul 28, 2010, 10:37 AM

Originally Posted by ravgill

you should not interfere if you cannot understand.those who can understand my post should only rely.thanx

Hey Raygill, welcome to AMHD. The issue with your post is that most people reading it cannot understand it. There are a lot of people on here from different backgrounds, cultures, countries, etc. that do not know the terms you used.

To get the most out of this website it is important to write in a structured, easy to understand format so you maximize the answers/advice you get. :)

ravgill · Jul 28, 2010, 10:38 AM

OK... I didn't know that.. well thanks for your reply.. all here seems to me very rude.lols:)

so my question was just to simply know that if I didn't picked my ex's phone,will he call me back?I didn't talked to him from 2 months after convincing him so hardly to come back... then finally I quit and now I'm not talking with him.after two months he called me 6 days back.I want him to feel what I felt when he was not answering my calls.and I want to realize him my value in his life...

kctiger · Jul 28, 2010, 10:49 AM

Rav in my opinion he wants to make sure you still want him. If you start paying attention to him again he'll quit calling. Once you ignore him, he starts wondering if you still think about him... it's like a game and one you shouldn't play.

In my opinion, you should forget about him and focus on other things in your life. You are a good person and you offer value to anyone's life, so why worry about his when he clearly didn't worry about yours?

ravgill · Jul 28, 2010, 11:00 AM

HI Kctiger
I know yor are right on your own place but the love he showed me even in such a long distance relationship was really appreciable.that is the reason I want him.but not simply I donot want to accept him.I really want him to apologize for what he did last time.it was unexpected he did.no doubt there was also my role in this breakup.in the last two months from our breakup,I was so rude to him and spoke with him rashly but he didn't know the reason why I'm doing that.so at the last he stopped replying me.
Then when I had a breakup with him I made the things clear that why I was rude to him.but he was not replying then anymore...
So I donot know he did flirt with me or what ever,but our relationship was really really sweet.that is why I donot want to loose him.but if he will not aplogize,I will definitely quit.but don't know whether he will feel sorry or not?

I wish · Jul 28, 2010, 12:50 PM

If you want to be taken seriously be people around you, especially those that you are asking for advice, it's important to put your best foot forward.

The reason there's a link with relationships is because, grammar and spelling shows whether the person pays attention to detail. Paying attention to detail is a quality that carries over to other aspects in your life.

Relationships require a lot of hard work, which relates to paying attention to detail. If you make it a habit to putting your best foot forward all the time, then it will just become second nature and you won't have to think about it. Furthermore, it will help you for work, school, friendships and even relationships.

The people here aren't trying to be rude with you. They are trying to help you. But if you don't take things seriously by using poor writing skills, then how do you expect others to take you seriously?

But now that you've made a great improvement, it's much easier to help you out with a positive attitude.

If he's not answering, then he must have his reasons. If he wanted you back, you can be assured that you'd be the first to know. If he's ignoring you, it means that he wants to live his own life. You can't force him to talk to you.

Since he's moving on with his life, then it's best that you did the same thing too.

ravgill · Jul 29, 2010, 05:20 AM

You... I should leave the idea of getting back with him,, it would be better for me I think:)
I should forget him now:(

talaniman · Jul 29, 2010, 07:17 AM

Too much drama, to many mind games, too much attitude, bad behavior, and lies. Yeah I think you would do better with another guy. One who is closer and you could at least have fun with more often.

ravgill · Aug 7, 2010, 10:03 PM

Thanks TO ALL FOR YOUR ADVICES.
Now I am moving on in my life and I had tried to forget him.and see,it worked well.. now I donot miss him as much as I used to miss him before.because firstly my aim wasa just to get him back in my life.BUT NOW,I have realised that we were not meant for each other.now I started enjoying with my friends and my life is going on the track.I also got relief from pain of missing him.because my focus has now shifted from 'Him' to some other things of life.
Now I donot have any bad or good feelings for him.God bless him.I just think that he was the person who never came in my life and it was just a dream which is now finished.
Take care.god bless you all.. now I am finally living my life normal like others.. byeeee... :)