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baravika · May 15, 2010, 11:15 AM

Hello.

Well my story is more or less the same as other peoples, but the thing is that I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and don't know where this is going.

During all this time we haven't had a lot of arguments but even if we do we sort it out as straight away. Anyway my point is that I have never met his parents (they don't even know I exist), I have never met his friends and we don't even talk about the future, it's just like living a day without thinking about tomorrow.

And with his friend the thing is that I have met only two of them and still they are girls. He hangs out together with these girls and his friends, but never takes me with him.

I just feel like we hang out together 3-4 time a week and end of story. I just don't know where this is going because this routine starts to make me feel crazy!!

Clough · May 15, 2010, 12:09 PM

Hi, baravika!

Have you sat down with your boyfriend to have a heart-to-heart conversation to discuss with him about the way that you're thinking and feeling, please?

Thanks!

Jake2008 · May 15, 2010, 12:28 PM

After three years, and he hasn't informed anybody that you exist, I'd say the answer to your question is, the relationship is going nowhere.

Not only that, it's downright rude not to introduce you to his parents after three years.

Seems to me he has a whole other side to him that he likes to keep a secret from you.

I would be inclined, and I'm not advising this is the best thing for you, but for me I'd find his address and go knock on his door and introduce myself as his girlfriend of three years. Then I'd say, I thought it was about time we met. Maybe bring a nice plant or something.

Might be time for you to say, enough is enough. Give him a deadline to either explain why you are a secret, or, what he is hiding, or both.

Jeha · May 15, 2010, 03:32 PM

I think he should have at least introduced you to his parents after like 6 months together

friend4u178 · May 15, 2010, 05:43 PM

Sounds to me like you're his 2nd life :cool:

talaniman · May 16, 2010, 08:06 AM

Doesn't sound as if he cares if it goes anywhere or not, as long as he sees you when HE wants to. You should have been airing your concerns a long time ago, but its not to late to do so now, so talk to him, and get the answers to your questions from him.

bluelove · Jul 19, 2010, 07:02 PM

This happened to me (and I only dated him for a month.)

If he hasn't introduced you to his parents, it's not a good sign. He probably doesn't have a good relationship with his parents and likes to have a life of his own. The fact that 3 years have gone by is a bad idea.
You should talk to him about why you haven't his parents or any of his other friends.

And if you're arguing be careful about what you agree on.