[BlueEye]

I am really,really lost about what to do the guy I'am with now is really nice and such a gentlemen he always as such nice thing to say,and all but the problem is I think he is going to ask me to marry him! At a big dinner!! But the guy I use to be with is like always in the back of my mind.Even when I'am with the new guy, my old boyfriend is really funny and he loves to sing and dance and he acts to.
We did not have a bad breakup the only reason we brokeup is because we wanted to better our jobs and we didn't have that much time for each other.Meanwhile we became good friends,and he started dating another girl,and to make a long story short they had a bad breakup.Anyway we started hanging out more with he each other,and it started to feel like old times.
I just don't know what to do when I'am with my boyfriend I have know I have to be so serious and more grown up.But when I am with my ex,I'am the person I want to be funny,and just all around happy,its like were to little kids together and we have been through so
Much just the two of us taken on the world.
Do I need to move on and leave old flames along,or end things with my boyfriend before this gets way out of hand! (HELP)(Side Note:I have never cheated on my boyfriend with my ex. And would never do anything like that to anyone I've dated)

[Just_Another_Lemming]

the guy i'am with now is really nice and such a gentlemen he always as such nice thing to say,and all but the problem is i think he is going to ask me to marry him!!At a big dinner!!!

I don't know of any woman excited at the prospect of a proposal using the words "the problem is i think he is going to ask me to marry him" . If it is a "problem" now, what will it be later when he actually proposes. Are you prepared to accept his proposal? It doesn't sound like it.

But the guy i use to be with is like always in the back of my mind.Even when i'am with the new guy,

Hmmm. How would you feel if your ex-boyfriend were dating you now and he admitted while he is with you, he was always thinking of the girl he just broke up with? Do you think that you would want to marry him knowing that?

Anyway we started hanging out more with he each other,and it started to feel like old times.
I just don't know what to do when i'am with my boyfriend i have know i have to be so serious and more grown up.But when i am with my ex,i'am the person i want to be funny,and just all around happy,its like were to little kids together and we have been through so
much just the two of us taken on the world.
Do i need to move on and leave old flames along,or end things with my boyfriend before this gets way out of hand!!(HELP)(Side Note:I have never cheated on my boyfriend with my ex. and would never do anything like that to anyone i've dated)

It sounds as if you are still in love with your ex. Are you? If the answer is yes, then you know what you have to do. By the way if you are still confused, I will add this, you haven't stated here that you are in love with your current boyfriend. What you have stated is that he is a "gentleman". It also sounds as if you cannot be yourself around him. So, you "have to be so serious and more grown up" when you are with him. Do you think changing your personality to fit someone else's expectations will result in a long and happy marriage?

I think you know the answer to your own question. You simply are afraid to hurt your current boyfriend. It shows you are human and you have compassion. No one enjoys hurting someone we like and who has treated us well. But, it is better to hurt him now then to let this go on any further. It appears to me that you really don't want this guy to propose marriage to you right now because you want to see what happens with the ex. So, be kind and break it off with your current boyfriend. Hopefully, he hasn't spent the money on a ring yet.