[ilovesex]

He told me that he want to mary me soon after he goals one project,because he's having a family and money problem for the last 2 years now.ive been dating this guy almost a year now.we use to have sex in the shower and sometime at the living room,not often though but we did it at least once a week.but now its like I'm the one whose asking for it,he just can't do it anymore,every time were together in bed,I try to kiss him but he said he just can't or it will come to sex,and I don't feel like doing it.its been bothering me for the last 4 month now.I ask him why don't u fell like doing it anymore? He said,"i have more other things to think about" I just don't feel doing it.I don't feel that my life is on the right path now because I don't have enaugh money,he only think about money money money.. im just wondering is he gay or something? He is 26 years old,very sensitive,good body and I'm quite preety.I just don't get it can money problems effect your sex drive that bad?

[kp2171]

Any kind of stress can take a toll on ones sex drive.

That said... it isn't a free pass to let him neglect you.

It does NOT get easier because vows are taken. It DOES get harder when kids come into the mix.

If he isn't willing to chase you now and chase you hard, he probably will do so even less later.

Sounds cynical, I know... but from experience... if you are sexually disconnected early on, it will not get better over time.

He sounds like a GGB... meaning he is a Great Guy But... he isn't attentive as you need him to be.

GGB's happen here all the time... and my only advice is to not back down from what you know you want and need.

Many, many things can make a well meaning guy less attentive. Stress is one of the top killers of libido.

But that is NOT a free hall pass to do whatever he wants.

He needs to understand that you need an attentive lover... and if other things get in the way of his being a focused lover... then he chooses what's important to him.

We ALL get sideswiped from time to time.

We all deserve a little time to refocus. Rebound. Reset.

But... I can tell you from painful, personal experience... at some point, if he doesn't chase you down and push you to the wall cause he needs you...

Well...

Then he doesn't need you.

Sorry if that's the case. Been were you are with a girl that just wasn't right for me, even when all else was fantastic.

[kp2171]

Another question...

When are you most sensitized and driven, and when is he most likely to seek you out for sex?

[Synnen]

My question is how old are you?

You TYPE like you are 15

[kp2171]

I'm older than 15.

Pinky swear.

[smoothy]

I looked in the dictionary...

"coz" isn't in the english language.

Neither is "n". "ur" isn't either.

Text speech isn't acceptable in an adult forum where you are expected to use real words.