[so_sad88]

me and my parter have been together for just over 2 years now. We have just recently had a baby together. Everythings been stressful and I've been so moody and crying all the time. He told me he doesn't want to be with me anymore. He said when he was angry that he didn't feel the same about me like he used to. I can't cope on my own :( I need him here but I don't know what to do. He still stays in contact and comes over. He says I love you too when I tell him I love him but I'm scared I'm really losing him. I honestly don't know what to do. Reading this doesn't seem like a big deal but I feel awful. And now he's just started a new work place so he's busy doing that while I'm left at home. He knows I'm not doing or talking to anyone much but I don't know what he's doing :( I feel like he will try and get with someone or get on with some girl a bit too much and start taking an interest in them. Please somebody help me :(

[Wondergirl]

I remember those days -- sleepless nights, sleepless days, crying infant, helpless husband, being homebound during the winter that had lots of ice and snow. I feel for you and know what you're going through.

This is why people get married, so it's not easy to just walk away from the partner. Are you having post-natal depression problems? Why do you think he's bowing out of the relationship? Doesn't he want to be a father after all? Have you suggested that the two of you see a counselor for a few sessions?

[RKCBB]

I am so sorry to hear this, and I hope all gets better soon. I do think though, that maybe he is just tired from all the emotional stress he's under. I think you two should consider counseling perhaps, even if its brief, to try and solve some problems and resolve any resentment between the two of you. Relationships take hard work- its never easy and there will always be obstacles to overcome- that is the true test of a relationship. Don't give him up; just try and resolve the issues that are at the heart of this problem.

[Cat1864]

How long ago did you have the baby? Was he supportive through the pregnancy and birth? Were there any complications?

Some men find it hard to deal with the changes that a baby brings to not only the home but to their partner as well. Is he having problems with these changes? Would he admit it if he did?

It sounds like he is feeling stressed and is placing more stress on you. Is there someone who could mediate a discussion between the two of you? A therapist, clergy, etc.

[talaniman]

Do you have the support of your family, or his? Friends. Yeah its got to be rough when you have to stay home, while he works. You mind starts playing tricks on you. Your emotions run away and that's a lousy feeling.

Don't let yourself be isolated is what you have to do, so each out to mom or a few friends and get some news form the outside world.

Your hormones and body have been through a lot so let yourself recover from having a child. You both will have to recover, and adjust to the life changing event you have been through.