[nym0514]

Hey guys, *Long read*..

I wanted some advice so I hopped on over here,

My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for 3 months, but have been together officially for almost 2 months. We've already fallen in love with each other (I know, fast) and our relationship is extremely strong.

However, my girlfriends parents found out about us (they've known for a while but brought it up yesterday) and they don't want her to be with me because, we go to the same church. Her parents think that I would hurt her or if we do break up, it will damage the church and relationship with them and my family.

My girlfriend has been hurt in the past, in the same situation because her ex attended the same church and he cheated on her with someone there.

Yesterday was all good and we spent the day together. She works at a music camp this summer so she comes down once a week. Last night I got a text saying "she loved me but she doesn't want to hurt her parents" and "we need a break". We talked on the phone for about 30 minutes both crying, telling each other how much we love one another and how we're both sorry, etc.

She said she wants a break until she gets back (July 19th).

The only logical solution I have is to speak with her parents to let them know my true feelings and ask them straight up for permission to be with the girl I love.

So what do I do? We agreed to resume our relationship when she get's back but it's really confusing because of her parents. I am really hurt and devastated so I just need some advice and input from others on here.

I think if I talk to her parents and if they give me permission then we will be happy again..

Thank You so much..


And will be back to normal when and if we start resume our relationship again...

[ZoeMarie]

I think it's worth at try, honestly. The worst thing they can do is say no, which they already have. I think that it would show how much you care really.

I am still trying to wrap my head around the fact that they don't want you guys together because you go to the same church. If you go to church, what better place to meet someone? How old are the two of you?

[nym0514]

We are both 20 but turning 21 soon.

My girlfriend was hurt really bad because of her ex boyfriend. She cheated on her with a girl there and it caused a huge rift at their church. Her faster is a pastor at the church.

Anyway, we just talked on the phone and she said it's really not a break and that she just needs some time to figure out some things. We talked the way we normally do and she told me how much she loves me and nothing will happen.

I told her about our logical solution and she said okay. It's just really confusing because her parents are influencing her. I feel like my girlfriend doesn't make an effort to tell them that I am not her ex-boyfriends. I told her to be straight up with her parents and tell them that I am not like other guys.

[talaniman]

You can talk to them, but be prepared for them to do whatever it takes to protect their daughter.