[Kitkat22]

Good Luck

[stbmrsd]

I don't even know that now pros and cons I mean pro I love him con He is making me nuts pro when we are together I feel loved and safe con when we are apart I feel unsure of us all the time Pro he is a great dad con he is a great dad lol Pro He has a really good job con he is so used to being by himself I think it will be hard to add us to his life everyday.Pro Before all this he was willing to add us . Con Moving but that's also a big Pro for me I would love to leave this place.
Pro he is a fantastic lover lol . Pro we Love doing the same things we have the same passions .Con he is not a giver of the way he feels bad at words.
I know when I met him I looked right past him ,I was seeing someone and it was coming to an end (actually the day I met him I broke up with the other guy) But It was a chance meeting I happened to be out of town visiting friends and he was setting at a table full of guys and I was handing out flyer's for a upcoming event for a ride . His friend read my vest and ask me what kind of club I was in . I turned around told them and moved on doing what I was doing . The next bar there they were all of them and we acted like we went way back . I made a bet with my guy and if he lost he would buy me a beer and if I lost he would still have to buy me a beer lol . We hung out in a group setting since one I wasn't even actracted to the man and 2 I was still dating mr omg what was I thinking lol . So the dya ended I went home got online and he had found me we talked for a few weeks online on the phone then we started seeing each other ever chance we had almost every weekend. He made me feel so great all the time all our pictures we have these big smiles from ear to ear . He holds my hand brushes my hair out of my eyes he may not say words but he does actions.
After he ask me to Marry him I went in to full bride mode it threw him off I am sure . I was never the lovey dovey type now all the sudden I am saying crap like love you more . Kisses all the time . Sweet talking and wanting the same in return . I did a 180 on the man . I went from I don't give a if you call to all girly girl . What in the world was I thinking . And is it to late to say you know what G You have every right to feel the way you do I went nuts on you . I hear someone wants to love me forever it's hard to believe I never thought someone would ever want me forever and ever . I was the fun girl . I am done being her . I want to make a real home for my family and for him .
Is it to late to say wait you know I am so sorry I moved so fast I let the bling get to my head .lets take a step back and date some more .

[Kitkat22]

I dont even know that now pros and cons I mean pro I love him con He is making me nuts pro when we are together I feel loved and safe con when we are apart I feel unsure of us all the time Pro he is a great dad con he is a great dad lol Pro He has a really good job con he is so used to being by himself I think it will be hard to add us to his life everyday.Pro Before all this he was willing to add us . con Moving but thats also a big Pro for me I would love to leave this place.
Pro he is a fantastic lover lol . Pro we Love doing the same things we have the same passions .Con he is not a giver of the way he feels bad at words.
I know when I met him I looked right past him ,I was seeing someone and it was coming to an end (actually the day I met him I broke up with the other guy) But It was a chance meeting I happened to be out of town visiting friends and he was setting at a table full of guys and i was handing out flyer's for a upcoming event for a ride . His friend read my vest and ask me what kind of club I was in . I turned around told them and moved on doing what I was doing . The next bar there they was all of em and we acted like we went way back . I made a bet with my guy and if he lost he would buy me a beer and if I lost he would still have to buy me a beer lol . We hung out in a group setting since one I wasnt even actracted to the man and 2 I was still dating mr omg what was I thinking lol . So the dya ended I went home got online and he had found me we talked for a few weeks online on the phone then we started seeing each other ever chance we had almost every weekend. He made me feel so great all the time all our pictures we have these big smiles from ear to ear . He holds my hand brushes my hair out of my eyes he may not say words but he does actions.
After he ask me to Marry him I went in to full bride mode it threw him off I am sure . I was never the lovey dovey type now all the sudden I am saying crap like love you more . kisses all the time . sweet talking and wanting the same in return . I did a 180 on the man . I went from I dont give a if you call to all girly girl . What in the world was I thinking . And is it to late to say you know what G You have every right to feel the way you do I went nuts on you . I hear someone wants to love me forever it's hard to believe I never thought someone would ever want me forever and ever . I was the fun girl . I am done being her . I want to make a real home for my family and for him .
Is it to late to say wait you know I am so sorry I moved so fast I let the bling get to my head .lets take a step back and date some more .

Let him talk first and tell you what he has been soul searching for.

[Homegirl 50]

Do not assume or jump to conclusions. Wait until he talks to you so you can base things on facts.

[stbmrsd]

The wedding is off we are off it's not what he wanted he felt smoothered and he would rather be by himself he thinks forever .

[LearningAsIGo]

The wedding is off we are off it's not what he wanted he felt smoothered and he would rather be by himself he thinks forever .

I'm sorry to hear that. Perhaps you can be friends, in time. It may not be easy to hear now, but maybe its for the best. Even when we're so very sure, God always has His own plans. Perhaps your true soul mate is waiting just around the corner. Everything happens for a reason --we just rarely know what that reason is. {{hugs}}

[Kitkat22]

I'm sorry to hear that. Perhaps you can be friends, in time. It may not be easy to hear now, but maybe its for the best. Even when we're so very sure, God always has His own plans. Perhaps your true soul mate is waiting just around the corner. Everything happens for a reason --we just rarely know what that reason is. {{hugs}}

Learning is right... God does have a plan. Sorry you're in so much pain.

[Homegirl 50]

The wedding is off we are off it's not what he wanted he felt smoothered and he would rather be by himself he thinks forever .

I'm sorry to hear that. It was not meant to be.
One door has closed because there is another one to open.
You will get through this.

[Kitkat22]

I'm sorry to hear that. It was not meant to be.
One door has closed because there is another one to open.
You will get through this.

You will get through this. I'm so sorry!

[stbmrsd]

I have not contacted him but he sent me an email . Now everything is just playing around in my head . He did send a note to my good friend it was a nice note . He wasn't sure if we were still dating or not WTH .He is a coward and is scared to talk to me . No reason to be . I was as nice as I could be told him I understood never said a mean word and I am not going to I am above that . If your not ready to get married your just not ready . What is left to say ?

[Kitkat22]

I have not contacted him but he sent me an email . Now everything is just playing around in my head . He did send a note to my good friend it was a nice note . He wasnt sure if we was still dating or not WTH .He is a coward and is scared to talk to me . No reason to be . I was as nice as I could be told him I understood never said a mean word and I am not going to I am above that . If your not ready to get married your just not ready . What is left to say ?

Don't say anything to him.. he's made his choice.. he has to live with it.

[Homegirl 50]

You two could still get past this.
Perhaps he felt controlled, maybe you were a bit pushy.
If he loves you and you love him, you two can work things out, take things slow talk to each other, get to know each other.
Things may work or you may find he is not the man for you.

[Kitkat22]

You were independent before, be that girl again. Men do not like clingy women.

It may work or it may not. Don't contact him.

[Homegirl 50]

I have not contacted him but he sent me an email . Now everything is just playing around in my head . He did send a note to my good friend it was a nice note . He wasn't sure if we was still dating or not WTH .He is a coward and is scared to talk to me . No reason to be . I was as nice as I could be told him I understood never said a mean word and I am not going to I am above that . If your not ready to get married your just not ready . What is left to say ?

Those are his feelings though, don't invalidate them.
If he is not ready to get married after 5 months, he is not. It makes sense. If you want to have a relationship with this man, talk to him. Get to know him and let him get to know you, but don't ignore him because you are hurt and pissed. Don't disregard how he feels. You two are adults. You should be able to talk this out and then either try to make it or agree to walk away.
I don't think nc is necessary until you two have talked this out and have come to a decision to split up. If you don't want to have anything else to do with him, then tell him and be done with it.

[stbmrsd]

I agree 5 months was fast and I am fine with stepping back .I am fine with talking to him . I do love him and I want us to talk this out I will copy the letter he sent my friend and show you what he is thinking and feeling. Your so right I was pushy I wish he would have said hey lets hold up on getting married for awhile I would have been OK with that . I would rather had that then this you know .
I'm not sure. I told her I wasn't ready to be married. I tried , but every time she would talk about the wedding and setting a date, I just would panic. I felt very smothered, not by her but by the idea of being married. I don't want to go into a marriage feeling that way. She's very emotional right now and understandably so. When the emotions simmer we can talk and see what we will do. But she has taken it so hard Idon't know if things could be the same. It had nothing to do with my daughter, it's all me. I tried to do it but when it got to the nitty gritty I couldn't. I apologized to her for going so far with it but I thought my feelings about being married might change after I gave her the ring. It's nothing against her, I think she's a good person and we have fun tgether but I just can't be married right now. I hope you understand...please don't hate me

What he was saying Im not sure too is if we were still seeing each other . Something I myself would like to know . I have been giving him space and hopeing he would contact me by phone but he didn't today and won't his at work . So Should I call him in the morning or send an email or something? Another thing that's a problem is all the people that love me like friends lol think they are helping by writing to him and stuff it's not helping I ask them not too but they already did .So I can't help what they do but I hope they stop it . I made it clear . I am not playing a game and this is my life and I want to see where this goes .

[Homegirl 50]

I agree 5 mths was fast and I am fine with stepping back .I am fine with talking to him . I do love him and I want us to talk this out I will copy the letter he sent my friend and show you what he is thinking and feeling. Your so right I was pushy I wish he would of said hey lets hold up on getting married for awhile I would of been ok with that . I would rather had that then this ya know .
I'm not sure. I told her I wasn't ready to be married. I tried , but every time she would talk about the wedding and setting a date, I just would panic. I felt very smothered, not by her but by the idea of being married. I don't want to go into a marriage feeling that way. She's very emotional right now and understandably so. When the emotions simmer we can talk and see what we will do. But she has taken it so hard Idon't know if things could be the same. It had nothing to do with my daughter, it's all me. I tried to do it but when it got to the nitty gritty I couldn't. I apologized to her for going so far with it but I thought my feelings about being married might change after I gave her the ring. It's nothing against her, I think she's a good person and we have fun together but I just can't be married right now. I hope you understand...please don't hate me

What he was saying Im not sure too is if we was still seeing each other . Something I myself would like to know . I have been giving him space and hoping he would contact me by phone but he didn't today and wont his at work . So Should I call him in the morning or send an email or something? Another thing that's a problem is all the ppl that love me like friends lol think they are helping by writing to him and stuff it's not helping I ask them not too but they already did .So I can't help what they do but I hope they stop it . I made it clear . I am not playing a game and this is my life and I want to see where this goes .

You said you have not contacted him since he sent you an email, so maybe he is waiting a response from you.
Your friends need to mind their own business and I'd tell them. I would imagine he would be feeling ganged up on at this point. Talk to him. Call him set up a time you to can have a heart to heart. He bared his soul to your friend, he was being honest. Return his e-mail. Set up a time to get together and talk.
I think there may be hope for you two if you talk to each other, clear the air.

[stbmrsd]

Ok I wrote him told him we needed to talk that I wasn't angry .Guess we shall see what he has to say in the morning when he gets his mail :) I am hopeful . I told him I understood that 5 months was fast and we had all the time and when the time was right it would be right for both of us .

[Kitkat22]

It's between you and him. Nobody else! Don't talk about marriage when you do speak with him.

[stbmrsd]

NO I wouldn't lol

[Homegirl 50]

Oki wrote him told him we needed to talk that I wasn't angry .Guess we shall see what he has to say in the morning when he gets his mail :) I am hopeful . I told him I understood that 5 mths was fast and we had all the time and when the time was right it would be right for both of us .

I hope things work out for the two of you, I really do.
Communication is a wonderful thing. Don't assume anything. Talk and get a full understanding. Listen to what he is saying.
I wish yo well