[gracebabe]

I Broke up with my boyfriend in January and have a new boyfriend at the moment who is lovely and really nice but for some reason I can't get over my ex, me and my ex have been together 3 years on an off and have I have cheated but Ive tried everything to get him he has a new girlfriend as well but he constantly tells me he still loves me and there's not a day that goes past that he don't think about me but ii text him sometimes and never get a reply then sometimes I do we have slept together since but he still says there's to many reason we can't get back together but then when he's with me its like were back together what shall I do

[Lucky098]

Sounds like you haven't broken up with him yet.

You need to break off all ties to your "ex" boyfriend. You need to dump the guy your with right now and take some time for yourself. 3 years is a long time. You're not just going to pack your bags and move into someone else's life without wonderment.

Be kind to the guy your with now and break up with him. You're cheating still... Because you never really broke up with your "ex" boyfriend...

You need to stop cheating. Its not healthy. You're going to get caught and You're going to get hurt. Maybe you deserve to be hurt due to the cheating, but he doesn't.

You need to not date someone for awhile. Maybe all you want is to mingle.. which is fine... just don't make a commitment with anyone.

Cheating never gets you what you want. Why people do it, I'll never know..

Cut off all ties to your "ex" boyfriend. You need to get over him and he needs to get over you. A break up in Jan and new boy/girlfriends 6 months later just isn't going to cut it for either one of you. Do yourselves each a favor and stop talking to each other. But since he won't read any of this advise, then that is what I will advise you to do.. Stop talking to you Ex... move on with your life.. and STOP CHEATING!

[adam_89]

Leave the guy you are with, get some healing time. Leave the ex out of the picture all together. You both are cheaters. You shouldn't do that because it just makes everything worse. Just stay away from men for awhile.

[Devorameira]

The only way you'll get over the ex is to go complete NC and be serious about ending it with him.

It sounds to me like you're making a real fool of yourself by running after him and sleeping with him when he's told you there's way too many reasons you can't get back together. Accept it and move on... he's using you!

You are treating your current boyfriend like crap with your sneaking and sleeping around. Respect him enough to break up with him as well. He deserves someone who loves and respects him.

Best advice I have is to have no boyfriend at all for awhile to allow yourself time to heal and get your head on straight.

[gracebabe]

Thank you both, I have been hurt as I have had 2 boyfriends since we split including my current one and my one before that cheated on me and I never did to him and I haven't to this new one. I just think if I leave my ex alone then we would never get back together :S its very confusing lol

[Lucky098]

Then if all you can dwell on is you and your ex getting back together, then don't be dating other people. You are hurting many people. You may not have cheated on anyone physically, but mentally you are. You are not all there for them. Your heart is constantly some place else.

You need to be alone for awhile. Allow yourself to heal. In order to properly heal, you need to stop talking to your Ex. For one, he is using you. If he wants to be with you, then he shouldn't be playing mind games with you. He shouldn't be taking advantage of you or using your body.

Gain a brain girl! This guy is poison to you. He is using you and making you think there is hope.

Not being able to talk to him will also make him think. If you two are meant to be together in the far distant future, then so be it. But right now, you two are not meant to be with each other.

IGNORE HIM!

[gracebabe]

Im not very good at being on my own thou I'm only 21 but my ex has made me in to a reck I've lost all my confidence and find it really hard to become compfortable around new people

[BWK10]

How you can be comfortable with someone else supposedly, before being comfortable by yourself is beyond me.

[gracebabe]

That's what I mean my head is all over the place! How do I stop myself from texting him and talking to him

[vanheart]

By figuring out what exactly it is you want.
Learning who you are first.

The whole thing thing sounds like a cheating game.

Maybe you should spend some time without a BF for a while instead of hurting yourself & others in the process.

[gracebabe]

Okay thank you :)

[talaniman]

So your going behind the new guys back trying to get an ex back! And how is that not cheating?? It sure ain't honest. Leave the guy alone, both of them and work on yourself, so you can make better decisions without lousy excuses.

[gracebabe]

I no bad but actually all this advice has stopped me bothering with my ex since I put the question down thank you to everyone. Me and my new boyfriend are getting on great talani man can u have a look at my other question I've asked and see if you no the answer thank you :)