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    Jun 28, 2010, 12:40 AM
    Cant leave him
    I had been in a relationship for 1 year. He is just a friend to me. I thought of not to get much attached to him. But it happened, which pinches me now a lot. We both were software professionals. We worked together for 3 months ,after which he got posted to different location .We used to chat a lot .we became a very thick friends. He is my very best friend with whom I can share my thoughts ,feelings. He even knows about my crushes. But I never expected that he had a crush on me. He never expressed his feelings, whenever he used to do that I used to say stop kidding. Because that’s what he do with all girls. He tries to flirt girls, of course he loves to do that. But his love for me is true. When he says that I told I can’t trust. That’s what made him much more hurt. He understood that . He left me saying” I don’t want you to be feeling sad that too because of me. So I am leaving you even though it hurts me a lot”. Now I realized that I miss him a lot. I dropped a mail saying the same. But no reply. I just want him to get back into my life ,weather he is good or bad. I can be happy in his presence. But what can I do??
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    Jun 28, 2010, 02:47 AM

    The same things happened with me. The only difference is that I just developed a feeling for that guy who was my best friend and finally we got into a relationship. And now we are no more together. So, I just wanted to suggest that if he is strong to forget you now.. let him do that. Because there is no use of forcefully keeping the friendship even after knowing that he has got a feeling for for you..
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    Jun 28, 2010, 03:33 AM

    True. But I got much attached to him. I thought he is just a friend to me and I can easily let him go. But now I came to know . I need him. I don’t think its love. But I want him,his caring.. suggestions back and moreover his jokes which makes me laugh even when I face critical issues.
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    Jun 28, 2010, 10:36 AM

    I think you leave this alone, and give yourself, and him more time apart, so you can both figure out what to do about each other in the future.

    You have already rejected his advance, and now you want to change your mind all of a sudden. Oh heck NO, as what self respecting man just comes back to be hurt, yet again.

    Leave him alone for now, and swallow your need, and both of you clarify your feelings without the influence of each other.

    Had you given this the time, and thought it deserved, you wouldn't be in this situation. Give it the time and thought NOW!!
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    Jun 28, 2010, 10:21 PM

    I made him hurt and it’s not the reason for him to leave me.It’s not even new to him.He left me only for my goodness.He feels that it’s a kind of favour.So that I can soon forget him and be happy. That’s what he said.Not sure whether it’s true or not.

    I know I had only two things left with me.One is to leave him alone and the other is to accept his love.I just can’t decide.

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