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lamina16 · Jun 26, 2010, 12:31 PM

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OK so I need help because out of the blue my girlfriend change her Facebook password and I found it kind of weird because she never did it before and plus she so dumb because every time somebody send her a message it goes to her Yahoo so I went on her Yahoo and found she was tlkin 2 this boy that like her so I went off on her about it den she posted on her wall that if I'm so suspious den stop tlkin to her... but I love her so much that I can't let her go so I sent her a message saying I'm srry and I love her I think dats where I went wrong because I seem soft but my question is should I let her go 4 good someone help...

My girlfriend chaeted on me and lied about it for a month den she finally admitted 2 it but the reason why she said she cheated on me is because I made her mad... den I ask every time I make you mad you going to cheat she said no my question is does she love me?? Dats da only bad thing she has done

lamina16 · Jul 4, 2010, 12:19 PM

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Hi my ex is acting really weird and I want her back so bad but yesterday we were tlkin and all of a sudden she hung up on me but when someone hangs up its going to say call ended but it didn't so it meant she click over so I call her bak and all she said was "o my bad" exact words... so were still tlkin den out the blue she says she sleepy like she even told me she pulling an all nighter wit me I mean she was acting really weird so I told her 2 stay on the fone wit me den she hangs up again and this time I was watching 2 c if it said call ended but I didn't so she click over again obviously she was on the fone wit sum1 else that she like... I kept calling she wouldn't answer.. she is my everything she has my heart on lock and she keep doing but I'm not ready 2 let her go yet.. but I told her I would never 4give her 4 breaking my heart she had nun 2 say to that.. I want to get over her but then again I want her back in my arms. So what do I do now??

lamina16 · Jul 4, 2010, 12:30 PM

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Yesterday we were tlkin and all of a sudden she hung up on me but when someone hangs up its going to say call ended but it didn't so it meant she click over so I call her bak and all she said was "o my bad" exact words... so were still tlkin den out the blue she says she sleepy like she even told me she pulling an all nighter wit me I mean she was acting really weird so I told her 2 stay on the fone wit me den she hangs up again and this time I was watching 2 c if it said call ended but I didn't so she click over again obviously she was on the fone wit sum1 else that she like... I kept calling she wouldn't answer.. she is my everything she has my heart on lock and she keep doing but I'm not ready 2 let her go yet.. but I told her I would never 4give her 4 breaking my heart she had nun 2 say to that.. I want to get over her but then again I want her back in my arms. So what do I do now??

positiveparent · Jul 4, 2010, 12:46 PM

Im sorry its against the site rules to post questions in text or chat speak, please re-write your question in plain english and someone will offer advice to you about it.

positiveparent · Jul 4, 2010, 12:48 PM

As Ive just explained to you in your other thread on here, posting a question in chat or text speak is against the site rules, so you will need to re write your question in plain english then you will be advised on what to do about it.

Curlyben · Jul 4, 2010, 01:25 PM

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lamina16 · Jul 4, 2010, 01:31 PM

Please use proper English, or your thread will be closed again.

Hi my ex is acting really weird and I want her back so bad but just yesterday we were talking and all of a sudden she hung up on me but when someone hangs up its going to say call ended but it didn't so it meant she click over so I call her back and all she said was "oh my bad" exact words... so were still talking then out the blue she says she sleepy like she even told me she pulling an all nighter with me I mean she was acting really weird so I told her 2 stay on the phone with me then she hangs up again and this time I was watching to see if it said call ended but I didn't so she click over again obviously she was on the phone with someone else that she like... I kept calling she wouldn't answer.. she is my everything she has my heart on lock and she keep doing but I'm not ready to let her go yet.. but I told her I would never forgive her for breaking my heart she had nothing 2 say to that.. I want to get over her but then again I want her back in my arms. So what do I do now??

positiveparent · Jul 4, 2010, 01:34 PM

How do you know she wasn't just talking to a friend, and not as you say someone else, she likes.

Did you ask her about this?

Also can I ask your ages please, this will help in how you can be best advised.

Just spotted in your post you say she's your ex, in that case who she was talking to would be none of your business, apart from this she's allowed to speak to other people and doesn't have to tell you everyone she talks to or why.

kp2171 · Jul 4, 2010, 01:34 PM

She is your ex.

Start acting like it.

Sorry... I know its harsh... but the reality is this...

She is gone.

You are acting like her girlfriend right now... giving her attention when she wants it... and when she has a better offer, she habitually dumps you.

Do not blame her. You need to straighten out yourself.

...

I've been in that place where you are. Where you want that person and you think if you are there for them that things might even out.

It doesn't.

You don't need her to accept that you love her... you need her to chase you down and demand that you give her another chance.

And I'm not saying you should give her another chance... I am saying that until she needs you... and I means NEEDS YOU... well... she doesn't need you.

Sucks to be you. I've been there.

Time to get a little p!ssed at how you are being treated and to back way off.

She is your EX. Period.

Walk.

lamina16 · Jul 4, 2010, 01:59 PM

Originally Posted by positiveparent

How do you know she wasnt just talking to a friend, and not as you say someone else, she likes.

Did you ask her about this?

Also can I ask your ages please, this will help in how you can be best advised.

Just spotted in your post you say shes your ex, in that case who she was talking to would be none of your business, apart from this shes allowed to speak to other people and doesnt have to tell you everyone she talks to or why.

I'm 16 n she's 15

lamina16 · Jul 4, 2010, 02:02 PM

OK I understand where you coming from but.. can you tell me how I get her to do all the running now?

kp2171 · Jul 4, 2010, 02:03 PM

Walk away.

You are going to have to do it... now or later...

Yeah... you still want her.

Fine.

Walk.

A few billion people on this earth... she isn't that special that you should torture yourself by being there for her while she uses you to get over you.

kp2171 · Jul 4, 2010, 02:28 PM

ok i understand where you coming from but.. can you tell me how i get her to do all the running now?

You can't make her do anything... almost...

You can back off and see if the drive is in her... I know, it seems counterproductive... or like head games...

But really... if you back of and she doesn't chase, you know its over.

If you back of and she does chase, it still might be over... she still might only be chasing you because she likes the control of knowing you are there for her.

That doesn't make her evil. Its human nature.

We all want our ex's to want us, miss us, to regret leaving...

So...

The real, honest truth is this... most of the time, when its over, it is best left over.

The intesity of the feelings you feel... its Big Time. But another girl will come along. Maybe not as fast as you'd like. But it'll happen.

Again and again and again.

So... stop trying to figure out how to make her want you. It is a waste of time and energy.

You must step back. Place some room between you both. It might not feel right, but you both need this space.

lamina16 · Jul 5, 2010, 08:51 AM

Thanks so much you really help, but how do I get over her? Like I'm not going to lie I want her back but she broke my heart so many times I don't even know why I kept going back to her, but how do I let go of her its really hard for me especially caus