[hannonlila]

I need advice,my daughters father left me [again], his my first love and with been on and off for three years!! His all I know,I shouldn't of revolved my life around him but that just sort of fell into place.he can be a lovely gentle person but there's another side to him that's a bit controlling and he has a temper.we split up about 3 months ago and we both got together with other people,he got back with an ex girlfriend that he was only with for about 2 mounths.I really thought it was over and I spoke to an old friend on Facebook who was there for me when I was in a very dark place.we ended up getting together .[wrong choice] I think he was a rebound .all I was doing was comparing him to my ex and even though I only saw him on the weekends I still needed space.but my ex was writing things on his Facebook wall of how happy he was with her and that he was going to marry her and adopt her son,then he got her pregnant,funny enough when he left me I was pregnant with a baby that we tried for that I aborted.I started to feel OK with the breakup but I still missed him dearly.then a text from out of no where come from him saying that he slit his wrists,and that his girlfriend broke up with him,I said we would never be again and he accepted that but then a week later he was trying to get back with me,I got back with him and broke up with my boyfriend,everyone warned me he would do it again,I thought he changed.we had a row and he left me once again.I don't know why I took him back but I feel so alone on my own as a single mum and feel like I do the same routine everyday,I've tried ringing him but his not picking up his phone.being on and off is so draining and I now know I need to move on because I can't deal with getting hurt again.can anyone give me advice on how to get over a first love and move on,thanks

[cindyhannah1]

When he asks to get back together again say no way dude you have had severel chances and now I'm done with you. If he tries again say the same thing that you don't want to deal with him anymore and that you have to get on with your life. NO ONE should treat you like that. My bffs and I say that we hate it when a man says he loves you and then treats you like trash, well that's what he's doing. So leave him and never see him again.