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aroraasdf · Jun 20, 2010, 10:04 PM

Hi there,
I am 20 years old and my girlfriend in 20 as well.
When I have sex with my girlfriend I give her oral sex fully to give
Her full pleasure of sex and she enjoys it a lot, even I am more
Happy to do that because she likes it.
But she haven't gave me oral sex till now, when I ask her to give
She just licks it by side and leave it.she doesn't put in mouth.

I really wants to have that pleasure because just when she
Licks by side I get too much horny..

If I am giving her oral sex then why she just do it incomplete.
And really I don't like to ask her to give oral sex to me again and again, because when
She did that before, I can realise that she done it purposfully(because I said) and that too incomplete..
What can be done so that she will involve oraly with me?

JK191 · Jun 21, 2010, 05:15 AM

Maybe she just doesn't like giving it.

Maybe she's embarrassed because she doesn't know what she's doing.

Try talking to her about it, find out why she doesn't want to do it.

afaroo · Jun 21, 2010, 08:24 AM

How old are you?

John

aroraasdf · Jun 21, 2010, 09:24 AM

I am 20 years old.and she is 20 as well

Cat1864 · Jun 21, 2010, 06:00 PM

She may be afraid that you will get too excited and ejaculate in her mouth or on her. She may not like the taste/texture of the lubrication/pre-ejaculate the penis expels.

If she is just now becoming comfortable with using her tongue, give her time to work up to taking your penis in her mouth. Pressuring her or saying that she should do x because you do y is likely to result in her not doing anything.

Communicate with her. If you can't talk to her about sexual matters, the good parts, the not-so-good parts, and the possible consequences, then you shouldn't be having sex with her.

Homegirl 50 · Jun 21, 2010, 06:57 PM

She may not like it in which case why should she do it.
Ask her and then you will know.

Fr_Chuck · Jun 21, 2010, 07:06 PM

Some women like to do this, and some don't

Just because you do to her has no meaning that she has to do this with you.

smoothy · Jun 22, 2010, 04:55 AM

I've always had this viewpoint. She is free to do it if she likes or not... without pressure, but I am also free to decide if I prefer to find a woman who will for her own reasons. Dating is just a long audition to finding the right partner for life. Everything is considered when deciding if any one person is right or not.

I believe in people doing what they are comfortible with. If you force someone to do something they don't want to do, they will always develop a resentment over it.

Just decide for yourself if her other good qualities outweigh her bad ones from your own perspective. Will you be happy with her if she never does? Only you can answer that question.

jmjoseph · Jun 22, 2010, 05:08 AM

It's good that you care about her pleasure.

She has to be assured that you won't have an accidental eruption while she performing oral. She may some day get where she will do it, she may not. Don't press the matter.

Is she of a religion where it may be considered taboo?

QLP · Jun 22, 2010, 04:30 PM

Have you actually asked her for exactly what you want?
Have you asked her why she is reluctant?
Do you make sure you have really good hygiene in that department beforehand?

positiveparent · Jun 23, 2010, 12:20 PM

If you want your girl to get into this then I think you need to take a few things into consideration.
1) make sure your toolage is clean and smelling nice.
2) pay attention to under the foreskin area, ( if you have f/skin) sometimes that can get slightly "cheesy" and that's sooo off putting.
3) don't push her head onto it, let her decide the pace...
4) don't force yourself into her mouth before she's ready, it'll make her gag not a nice feeling.
5) Also don't forget her ears aren't handles.!

Always say Thank You, girls/ ladies like men /boys with manners...

Don't criticise her attempts, encourage, by showing pleasure.

adam_89 · Jun 23, 2010, 12:35 PM

If you just sit down with her and ask her if she likes giving oral sex. Do you guys talk openly about it? It is always good to do so if not. As mentioned above, make sure you are good and clean.

skycyclepilot · Jul 18, 2010, 08:55 AM

You need to talk about it, and find out whether she ever intends to give you oral sex. If not, she's a prude, and you should move on, because it'll just get worse with time. If she is open minded, give her time, but, at some point, it may become obvious that she is just leading you on, and has no intentions of trying. Again, if that is the case, move on.

martinizing2 · Jul 18, 2010, 09:26 AM

You are young. A sexual relationship is something that grows with time as you become more comfortable with each other and the things that you do to give each other pleasure.

Talk to her about it but be understanding and patient and let her go at a pace she is comfortable with. She may just need time and encouragement from you to become more proficient at it. She may get to enjoy it more as time goes on.
But there are many women who do not enjoy anything about it and will not do it at all.
If this is the case it is not a reason to end a relationship or make yourself miserable over. Do what is pleasurable for both of you. Things can always change.

Don't be forceful about it, encourage her and let her know how good it makes you feel and how much you would like her to... (fill in the blank) take it a step or two at a time , don't expect it to happen all at once. Anticipation can be better than the act itself sometimes.

Patient understanding communication can overcome monumental problems and help build a great sexual and loving relationship.

Homegirl 50 · Jul 18, 2010, 10:36 AM

Originally Posted by skycyclepilot

You need to talk about it, and find out whether or not she ever intends to give you oral sex. If not, she's a prude, and you should move on, because it'll just get worse with time. If she is open minded, give her time, but, at some point, it may become obvious that she is just leading you on, and has no intentions of trying. Again, if that is the case, move on.

Refusal to give oral sex does not make a woman a prude. There are men who won't do it, it does not make them a prude, either. It is a matter of preference and choice.

skycyclepilot · Jul 18, 2010, 10:40 AM

I do it, with enthusiasm and love for my partner. A woman who wouldn't return the favor for me would be incompatible, and I'd end the relationship as soon as I found out.

Homegirl 50 · Jul 18, 2010, 10:46 AM

That is your choice and prerogative. But not every couple engages in oral sex and they have satisfying sex lives.
It is a matter of personal choice.
What is true for you is not true for every couple. Not every man uses that as a criteria for a relationship.

skycyclepilot · Jul 18, 2010, 10:51 AM

I agree with you. It is each person's choice. It is also each person's choice as to who they decide is compatible with them. Some people will only date professionals who make a lot of money. Not my type...

Allie602 · Jul 27, 2010, 07:37 AM

Don't be disappointed she is prob too inexperienced to know what to do and she may not want to tell you. Ask and guide her lovingly, you'll get better results. If she resist ask what her what she objects to and do what you can to make her comfy. Start slowly and gradually don't expect perfection at first and don't demand best way to turn a woman off..

Allie602 · Jul 27, 2010, 07:43 AM

She prob does not have enough experience to know what to do so, don't get upset. She is not doing it on purpose.