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Firstly I don't think you did anything wrong where you g/f ex b/f is concerned, no body owns anyone else nor do they have exclusive rights to them if they have a relationship and it ends then that's it its over, and going on the first post in this thread, you say that she had left the relationship with other b/f before you and she got together, so that's not wrong, she was a free agent so were you, just because we may have a relationship with a person, we don't then own them.

So don't beat yourself up over that, put it this way, if you buy a 2nd hand car then once its no longer the original owners car, then its yours, until you no longer have use for it, a rather odd way to put admittedly.

Still I hope you catch my drift?

I also think that maybe you're trying too hard with this person, you're wanting her to see you've made improvements on yourself, which is good, however, if you point these things out to her, she is less likely to be enthusiastic over them than if she noticed of her own accord. I feel maybe if you just made the changes and left it for her to notice them you might find its better than just telling her Ive done this or that, actions speak louder than words. Remember the old addage "talk is cheap" so I would say don't tell her show her.

She also maybe feeling overwhelmed by your way of being, perhaps you could try to lighten up and relax, this might help.

You seem to be making her the centre of your universe, that's not healthy you need some outside interests. Get some therapy, or professional advice, this would probably help you more than anything else.

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Doug, which part of you has a problem with being happy? That's what I would ask myself in your situation.
If all is well-enjoy it.
You deserve happiness-ok?

[valkman98]

Thanks All. I just get the its too good to last B/S going on.We had a great time today,rode the bike took a walk ,saw her Sis. Going over her place later tonight. Its just me. Your words helped. It has been very good since the !st and things are fine. I get this way @ the time the kids go to their Moms for the summer. I know its silly but hey I am a guy. LOL. I do other things w/o her and she does her thing too. I just haven't had it sooo good like this ,flips me out. A mental tune up might be good. LOL. Thanks a lot.

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Is it good or is it good?
Don't belittle yourself.
If it works-it works.
Stand up be tall-be you.

[valkman98]

Up date guys. Well we had a thing to work out 1st of the month. It was something I felt, she hide, but wasn't something we couldn't deal with. It could have went very bad I was very pissed at her keepping things from me. We talked for a long time over tne weekend and got things right. Its funny how things work out. The problem could have caused us to split ifI/we didn't act like adults. I am glad we/I did. It has taken us to a place I didn't think I could get to again. Am closer and deeper in love with each other than Either has been... maybe ever. Made us open our eyes to what we have and could have thrown away.Guys I had given up on this kind of relationship, didn't want to give it all so to speak,didn't want the pain. But after this I just said do it see what happeneds. I did and all good came from it. Live is good and both of us don't want this to end,it even got us to talk more. More her than me I talk all the time.LOL. She has problems getting out the words. Sometimes you need that kick in the to see what you got, decide if it is worth fixing and do the hard work to make it right. Ok enough for now. Thanks all.