[smcthatgirl2]

I finally got my first kiss about a month ago, and I'm 18. It was from a guy everyone calls 'manwhore'. I didn't like him at the time, I just was sick of waiting for a kiss so I just did it. I thought that was where it would end with him and I was fine with that. But then he started texting me, and I started to think maybe there was a possibility of something more, maybe even a relationship. The problem was though that he was leaving for the army, he is leaving in two weeks now. At the moment I am completely distraught. I found out that he is not going to 'bother' with me anymore, probably because he finally realised that I am not a slut and won't have sex with him, or be used in that way. But I really thought that I meant more to him than that. I just don't know what to do, it seems like every time I like someone they never like me back. Even a manwhore doesn't think I am worth the effort. All my friends say he didn't deserve me anyway, but who am I to be picky? I feel so worthless, I feel like I am going to be alone forever. I finally put myself out there and look what happened, I feel like giving up on love altogether. What should I do?

[ZoeMarie]

First of all, you are so young to think that you'll be alone forever. Second of all, no, this guy doesn't deserve you.

I think when you're comfortable with yourself and going out and doing the things you like to do, you find someone when you least expect it.

What are your plans for school? What do you like to do for fun?

[Clough]

Hi, smcthatgirl2!

A kiss isn't the same as an intimate, meaningful relationship. Also, you're probably correct about the guy. So, in my opinion, it would be best to just hang that one up and move on.

You can do that!

I have the same questions that ZoeMarie does and would like to add that, are you into the arts of any kind, like dancing, music, visual arts, theater, etc.

Thanks!

[smcthatgirl2]

You know, I have waited basically my whole teenaged life to get a boyfriend, and it hasn't happened. So I am really getting over this whole 'it comes with time' talk.
Maybe I should focus on other things, and actually this year has been a lot better for me in that way. I have been a lot happier because I didn't expect anything to happened and I just focused on university, my friends and going out and having fun and meeting new people. He just had to come along and ruin it all, now I'm back to feeling crap about myself again.
To be honest if this is what it takes to find love then it is just not worth the pain I feel right now.