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    i go 18dumby Posts: 53, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 15, 2010, 10:23 AM
    How to talk sense into him or what to do
    OK basically my friend is 18 and been doing a long distence realationship basically they never met in person and they been going out for two months and everything is OK then she admits that she's only 14 I said he needs to leave her alone but he doesn't know how to with out breaking her heart any advice? :confused:
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    Jun 15, 2010, 10:26 AM

    They are dating or communicating on line?

    Unless he wants to be charged with anything from parental interference on up (or down) he simply tells her that, at 14, he could be charged by the Police.

    And then he signs off and ignores any further correspondence.

    PS - I was an English major. Would you considering changing your signature line to "Life is a gamble"? You are misspelling "gamble."
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    Jun 15, 2010, 10:30 AM

    Tell him its not about hurting her... who has been lying about her age. But he will RUN not walk away if he understands HE can go to jail and be someone's girlfrind when he's there.

    Statutory rape is a sex crime and he would have to register as a sex offender the rest of his natural life.
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    Jun 15, 2010, 10:31 AM

    And I see the parents charging custodial interference if/when they find out - happening frequently in NY these days.
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    Jun 15, 2010, 11:18 AM

    OK I will tel him all that but my biggest concerin is she sent him a naked pic and this was before he knew she was only 14 when he found out he deleted it and the parents blocked his phone number from calling is that good or bad?I'm worried if they get involed this will all be bad for him but if it dose I'm hoping the fact that he was unknowing about tjis whole age thing
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    Jun 15, 2010, 11:26 AM

    I think that breaking her heart is the last of his worries. Breaking the law has bigger consequences.

    Just tell him to block and delete her from IM.
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    Jun 15, 2010, 11:28 AM
    Two months and they never met? It's very possible that the picture isn't even of her. He may dating a guy online. Tell him to get a real life that includes meeting real people.
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    Jun 15, 2010, 11:54 AM

    Just remind him that in prison sex offenders involving children (at 14 she is still a child) are held in very low regard.

    Prison rape is a sad reality... and he might face that if caught and convicted (him being on the receiving end).

    Walking away from her will be the easiest and smartest thing he can do armed with that knowledge.
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    Jun 18, 2010, 01:32 AM

    OK thank everybody its working and going well for him
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